Small ceremony, smaller invite-only private dinner reception
Hi all, this is my first post here! I'm planning a Dec. 10 2011 wedding and we are trying to keep our wedding as nice and classy as possible while working on a budget that still affords us a nice honeymoon!
We are considering a small chapel ceremony and an even smaller, invite only private dinner reception for very close friends & immediate, close extended family traveling in. Does anybody have recommendations on how to pull this off without offending anyone not invited to the dinner. My dad is a pastor... we simply cannot afford to do a reception for everyone and still have the nice sit-down dinner we want with our friends & family!

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Posted On: Aug 5, 2010 at 11:38 AM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Married: 05/07/2011
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Aug 05, 2010 at 11:40 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
There is no way around offending people if you only invite them to the ceremony. People are dressing up, buying a gift, taking off work, and traveling, everything which costs them money. I think they deserve a little more than a 30-minute ceremony.

Married: 10/14/2010
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Aug 05, 2010 at 11:41 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I would say keep the whole thing to the people that you really want to be at the reception. I agree there is no way to invite someone to the ceremony and NOT the reception.

Married: 06/04/2011
Aug 05, 2010 at 11:49 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I can see it maybe working if you have a larger ceremony (75 people) and a cake/coffee reception right after for everyone. Then go out to dinner with just immediate family/closest friends (like 20 people).

But if you only have 50 people at the ceremony and then invite 25 of them to the private dinner, you'll offend. IMO, it's less offensive to not get a wedding invitation at all, than to be invited and feel like you're treated as a 2nd class guest.

Shannon S.
Married: 2+ years ago
Aug 05, 2010 at 11:50 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
You can't really say, "OK, well, teh ceremony's over, so why don't y'all go out for a cup of coffee while the rest of us attend a party you're not invited to."

Could you do an afternoon ceremony, followed by a simple reception (just punch, cookies - folks could pitch in and bake, and an iPod), then the dinner?

Married: 08/13/2010
Aug 05, 2010 at 12:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I had the same problem, but we just decided to do an outdoor wedding kind of. It saved a lot of money. Btw, I like the date. It's my birthday!

Married: 2+ years ago
Aug 05, 2010 at 12:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
it doesnt work without offending. I say either do everything the real small size you want
do what other have suggested-daytime wedding, just a nice cake and punch reception and then later, dinner with those closest do you.
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