I love my mom, but she's really starting to hurt my feelings

I'd just tell your mom that it's not really her decision when you and your DH concieve and that she needs to just be supportful.

What Kayla said

Tell her to butt the f out of your personal decisions and life.

Who cares what your mom thinks - if she doesn't think you're ready at 30, she probably won't ever think you are ready. I know it hurts your feelings...it really sucks when parents say things like that, but the only thing you can do is ignore her comment and keep trying if that's what you and your HUSBAND (Congrats!) want to do.

Your mom just knows when you become a mom, shes a grandmom, and old lady grandmom.

i hope the best for your TTC adventure!

She probably still sees you as her baby and would be thrilled if you guys conceived. But ultimately, it is you and your DH's decision, no matter what Mom thinks.

I'm thinking along the lines of AndixLyn...maybe she really doesn't think that YOU'RE not ready, but that SHE isn't ready, and she's just not good at expressing those feelings. Good luck with conceiving!

Thanks, i hope you're right

I would be willing to bet your mom would be happy for you if you were really pregnant. My FMIL has told my FH and I that we can't have kids yet "because she's too young to be a grandmother". First- we're not even thinking of having kids anytime soon, Second- what does US having kids have anything to do with her. Just brush it off, people get weird about kids.

It seems like what your mom said was coming out of a place of love (even if it is annoying)...perhaps she just wants y'all to enjoy being married because once a kid comes, it'll just never be the two of you again?

I'm sure if you are pregnant, your mom will be so ecstatic and thrilled for you and FH...even if her personal opinion is that you wait. Best of luck!

Well, it's not really fair to say she's butting in or being hurtful when you kind of led her into saying what her opinion would be without being honest with her yourself. It's possible your mom is saying that stuff because she does hope that you wait longer and build careers and financial stability. If she's happy for some 19 year old, that's different from being a mom and really passionately wanting your kid to have the happiest life possible. I don't know what her history is or what your situation is, but chances are pretty good that if you had told her you were TTC or possibly already pregnant and happy about it, she'd be thrilled. You didn't give her that information. It sounds like you brought kids up as something that was a maybe, and she gave you an opinion. And it might just be because she wants the truly best for you.

If she still says your too young when you get honest with her, then thank her for her opinion and tell her it's your choice. But you can't be angry about basically nudging her into giving you an *honest* opinion without all of the information.

My mom is like that too, and I'm almost 27 (on Aug 30!). It's probably more about her own insecurities, and not about you. If you're the first of her kids to have children, picture it from her point of view: She would now be a grandmother. Grandmothers = old. Maybe she doesn't want to feel old?

Anyway, I think when you have a child, if you do, she will be happy for you. And if she's not? Then I will be very surprise/it says something about her attitude, not yours!

Im not angry with her, everyone has the right to their opinion. It would just be so hurtful to me to tell her that we're expecting and her not be happy about it.

If i wait until we're ready in everyone's eyes, we will never be parents.

@LadyMonk: She's already a grandma. My sister sailed that ship about ten years ago

I think parents just always think of us as their little babies and can't imagine us becoming parents lol .. hope that made sense. So they'll always think we're "too young." Doesn't mean they won't love their grandkids though!

I agree with what ashley said. this is entirely your decision and most moms have opinions no matter what you do.

just focus on you and your life and her involvement and feelings on things will just fall into place.

I'm 33 and my mother still tells me to enjoy marriage and wait a year or two. I do not want to be having my first child at 36 or 37, neither does FH. No matter what, when it happens, she's going to be thrilled, your mom will be too