I changed my mind about my bridesmaids...will my friends be mad?? Is it wrong?

They'll get over it.

Its not their moment. It is yours and FH. They will get over it.

I'm sure they'll get over it, just make sure you tell them now instead of waiting later, you don't know, they might already start saving money for your day etc... get everyone on the same page now

They will be mad then move on ... and make sure you tell them NOW lol ...

How would you feel if one of them was the first to get engaged and then didn't want you for a bridesmaid?

Double post.

They will get over it-it's your day do what you and FH want!

Wellll I don't think having family as BM's really keeps the drama out IMO. And I agree with Pumpin. But I think you should tell them ASAP. Do not keep them in the dark, because that alone could make them view their friendship with you differently for not letting them know.

True true. Lol you guys are so blunt! But thanks for your bluntness! I'm sure they'll get over it, but grrrr, sucks to deliver bad news!

Yes it sucks but if it's what YOU want then then do it. You can't do things to just keep things "kosher" ... as you plan, you'll see people get upset, mad, hurt etc. So start getting used to it lol ... If I could change anything, I would've eliminated ALL GM and BM and just had a MOH and BM ... lol

@ pumpkins, exactly! I know what you mean, I tried to put myself in their shoes. I honestly would be like "dang, that hurts", but eventually will suck it up.

I kinda have that problem since im only haveing a MOH but the other girl who was asking is doing my pictures =) but let them know that you want to have family in the wedding ( imo it would be more stress) but just let them know its kinda hard to tell them but just do it fast! lol

Lool. How Fast? I do agree that there would still be stress with the family, but TRUST me, my friends are drama queens! So it will be less stress without them!

I agree with Kathryn.....that is sometimes thee worst folks to be on the band wagon, but you know your family best...... I probably would be a little ill feeling at first, but friends support your decisions despite what they are..... If they love you.

I agree that they will get over it however I can tell you that in my wedding FAMILY were the ones that brought the drama. Its completely your decision but if they are good friends they will support your decision and maybe you could ask them to participate in some other way. Can they sing or do a reading??

Can you have them do something else? Maybe be a cake server, program person, or do readings, etc? It seems like since they're such close friends that you'd want them to help out somewhere.... and that would help take the sting out away from their disappointment?

I would be hurt and don't expect to be their bridesmaid. hehe I went to a wedding a couple of weeks ago the bride had her family as the bridesmaids and her sorority sisters as her hostess signing guests in an helping guests get seated.

Maybe have them be honorary bridesmaids? I saw on a post here something where the bride will give all her friends a little gift with a poem signifying their friendship. I thought it was cute.

I think you need to tell your friends and explain asap, i believe the true friends will get over it .

Good ideas, ladies. Maybe I will have them still involved in the wedding but not as bridesmaids. So that way they won't feel so bad and won't hate me!!:-(

There is one of them who swears that if she is not in my wedding in the bridal party, she will like go crazy. SMH. Oh well.....