I am not happy with my maid of honor....what should I do???

Well to be honest with you, regardless of what books may say, your Maid of Honor does not HAVE to help you with anything. Its great if they do, but I would not expect them to assume responsibilities that books say. So the fact that she doesn't help with anything, shouldn't be reason to demote her. The fact that she shows no interest or acts indifferent towards you would be a good reason. I would just talk to her and tell her how you feel, and take it from there. Or if you really want her to get involved, but one of those books from B&N or borders that tell what a Maid of Honor should do.

Hi Catherine! I’m sorry you’re going through such a stressful time. Although talking to someone about how you feel and searching for a common ground is a fabulous breakthrough, sometimes I understand it’s easier said than done. So, another few ideas are to have two maids of honor (MOH), honor a friend or family member as a matron of honor (a lot of times has more responsibilities than the MOH), or more and more brides and grooms are asking close friends of the opposite sex to be their honored guests. If you feel the relationship may be hindered if your soon-to-be sister-in-law doesn’t have any duties to fulfill, talk with her about what she would like or can do. Maybe light a candle, hold your bouquet or read a poem. Hope this helps!

One of the many reason I didn't use any family memebers from both side to be my MOH or BM's. I have five sisters and he has two and I have only my friends(4 girlfreinds)standing up with and for me. My siblings have their own issues and I be damn if they stress me out. I'm so glad with making the choice, my girls are doing a great job and I couldn't ask for a better set of ladies. As for you I would drop her like a hot cake! You really need someone that is going to step up and assist you with everything. I didn't realize how time consuming some of the task/projects can be and my MOH has a small son and works two jobs and she makes the time to take me every where. She is more committed to me then my fiancee and it his wedding too. Your time is ticking and you need to replace her ASAP! Congratulations and best of luck.

Because this is such a sticky situation having it be your future husband's sister (and sounds like only sister), my suggestion would be to make her your #2 Maid of Honor and allow another friend or family member to be promoted into #1 Maid of Honor. I'd say you can wait to tell the sister she's in line as #2 until the rehearsal stating with two Maid of Honors, you had to pick one or another.

Either way there likely will be drama, but maybe this will at least spare the rest of the family from thinking incorrectly about you if you actually demote the sister after having already said she was your Maid of Honor.

Hello,

You need to do what's right because it's not you starting with the wrong foot it's your future sister & mother-in-law who are making it difficult for you so, why should you feel bad? Just fire her & continue with your plans because I don't even think that she will want to be your bridesmaid after you fire her so might as well do it now & not wait until the last moment!

Christina I totally disagree with you- MOH should be there to help the bride- no if ands or buts about it. Catherine, I have seen this too many times at weddings I shoot...and its no fun for all parties involved. Call her up if you can't meet with her in person, and lay it all out. Tell her you understand if she is very busy with her life and has no interest with your wedding, but you really need some one for support. You would love to have her a part of your wonderful day, but if her life is too much right now, you understand and would be happy to have her as a bridesmaid or even just a guest if it would be easier on her.

If that doesn't work, smack her around a little. (JUST KIDDING!!!)