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Your Opinion: Father and 2 Brothers Walking the Bride Down the Aisle??

Jeffrey, on February 21, 2021 at 12:02 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 9
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My beautiful daughter is getting married this summer and would like to have me (her father) AND her two brothers walk her down the aisle. Not sure how that would look just yet. Perhaps one brother takes her part way, then the other brother takes her part way, then I (dad) take her the rest of the way to her groom. Have you ever heard of anything like this? I think it's very sweet, as she's quite close to her two (older) brothers, but I, as her father, can't help but feel a bit hurt by not making the whole walk with her myself, as I've always envisioned. Am I being too sensitive?

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Latest activity by Julie, on February 21, 2021 at 11:07 AM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Your feelings are justified- have you talked to her about this? How long is the aisle? That’s gotta be a long one! How about the 2 brothers walk partway & you the rest?
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  • Katie
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    Katie ·
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    Hi Jeffrey! Your daughter is lucky to have so many men who love her! Could it work if you walk her down the aisle and have her two brothers stand behind or beside you at the altar? After I walked down the aisle the pastor had a lot to speak to as we all stood together. For example, when the pastor/officiant asks “who gives this bride?” and you say for example “her mother and I” then you all can take your seats.


    My brother was my Man of Honor and did a beautiful toast. Perhaps her brothers could do a special toast together instead of walking her down the aisle? With covid restrictions, we were only allowed significant dances so after I danced with my dad, I had another song for me and my brother. Loved it ❤️Hope this helps and best of luck to you!!
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  • Shirley
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    Shirley ·
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    Not too sensitive. It's her wedding and I'm sure she has the best of intentions, but I get being hurt. Maybe gently ask her how she envisions it. Definitely hang back and let her just explain. In talking it out, she might change her mind.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    And you sound like a very good father who has always been there for your daughter, and I can understand your feelings and no, I don’t think you’re being too sensitive. It is an important moment for a father and daughter. Perhaps her brothers can call her privately and say “Hey Dad of course wants whatever makes you happy, but I think he really wants to walk you the whole way. Us brothers are totally ok with that”.
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  • M
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    Melanie ·
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    I don't think this you are being too sensitive at all! I do think that coordination would need some thinking about, since an aisle normally isn't very long. But perhaps you can ask if she would be open to giving her brothers another role, such as doing a reading or being an usher? If your daughter and future in law are open to it, her brothers could also wear the same thing as the groomsmen to stand out.

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    Ashley ·
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    Leave this decision to her and her future spouse. While you may have envisioned it one way, she wants something else and that’s okay. Accept that she is doing what means the most to her and will make her happiest. This tradition comes from an ugly place, and it’s changing a lot for a lot of people in modern times.
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    Judith ·
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    Like a relay walk to the alter. Horrible. Whoever is chosen, take the bride from beginning to end, don't pass her off like she has a bad smell, or you do. Dance with her, make a speech, or go down the aisle, but whichever it is, one person for one activity. Two only is a Father and Mother escort the bride, then both go all the way. If they arrive and leave by car, a brother can be their driver, also an appropriate role.
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  • Mrs. Spring
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    Mrs. Spring ·
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    This would look odd to me but it's her decision. Did her brothers raise her for some of her childhood? It's okay to feel anyway you like. I'm not having my father walk me down at all.
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  • Julie
    VIP February 2020
    Julie ·
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    Can the aisle be made wider to fit the four of you? I had my dad AND my mom walk me down the aisle together and I don't think it looked awkward. It's just one other person you'd be adding, and my mom was wearing a floor-length gown and I was wearing my wedding gown, so we were practically the width of four people anyway. I can try to find a picture if you're curious.

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