Where do you draw the line when it comes to young kids at weddings? I am totally fine with a hard NO especially because we are having an evening, cocktail style reception. But my FH is not a fan of that as the majority of them are his immediate nephews. There would only be a handful of them, and their ages will range from 9 yrs to 5 months. I'm particularly worried about the 5 month old (who is not even born yet) simply due to age and if he's anything like his soon-to-be-older brother I picture him being very fussy at this age. We do not plan on incorporating children into our ceremony. 3 of the children are from immediate family (9 yr -5 months) and the remaining 1 is from my FH's cousin (1.5 yrs). I am considering having our stance be 'No Kids except immediate family' but then we're singling out his cousin's kid may be odd, and I will still have anxiety about upset babies during our ceremony. If we say 'No Kids under 2 yrs' for example then I would feel a bit better but then we're singling out parts of families.
Maybe I'm overthinking it but this has really been concerning me! I take our ceremony very seriously and I can be the type where if once-in-a-lifetime things don't go as planned or are interrupted (like vows) it all feels ruined in my mind lol! I would hate to look back and feel like I didn't totally take in our vows because I was distracted by outside noise or activity.
Any advice would be appreciated.