Young couple

Well first and foremost do not use a vendor that comments rude things about you, that's unprofessional and not appropriate. If they're in the wedding business they should know better it's a red flag if they don't.
The only thing I can think of is just saying "No we are not" and being stern about it. In general if you defend yourself most people will back off, nobody wants an angry bride.

We got engaged when FH was only 21 and I was newly 22. We are getting married next weekend and I will be 24 in a few months so definitely on the younger side, especially for the area we live where most people do not get married until they're like 30. We have been together for over 6 years, had already finished college and had each started our careers by the time we got engaged, and have been living together for about 2 years. We had already been working good jobs, living together on our own, and were financially independent from our families by the time we got engaged. Since then, we have both moved into even better jobs making really good money and bought a house so with all of that said, we are not the "norm" for a lot of people our age. Because of all of this, we personally haven't really had a lot of people say anything negative to us about being engaged. All of the vendors we met with were never rude to us about our age or ever even made any comments about it. If I were you I would definitely not book with anyone who can't respect you and your relationship. They should know to be professional and not make rude comments like that. Regarding coworkers, my FH loves telling people he is getting married lol and all of his coworkers and bosses have been supportive and happy for him. I personally don't really talk about my personal life at all with my coworkers. I am relatively new to my current position and all of my coworkers are like 10-20+ years older than me so I keep to myself. If it ever comes up, I would tell them/talk about it briefly and if anyone had anything negative to say I would stand up for myself immediately, however, I have not come across that personally. Just stick to your guns and be confident in yourself and your choice. You don't have to explain or defend yourself to anyone. You're an adult and if someone can't respect your decisions, stand your ground. I would just say, "I think the decision is really up to me and my fiancé. We are adults that can make our own decisions and we would expect other adults to be able to respect that."

First off congratulations. Second, it wouldn't matter your age people would still have something to say. Ignore them. I'm 36 and he is 40 and we've been together for 16 years. Everyone still wants to give me advice. I would like to think we know what we are doing 🙄.

I get the same thing and I'm 25 aha in the age of millennials that's considered young for marriage I suppose.
Congrats to you though, I usually just say well when ya know they're the one you just want that life to start (like a harry meets Sally)

Congrats!

Sorry to hear that you've had unpleasant responses I was 21 and FH was 24 when we got engaged. We will be together a couple months shy of 6 years when the big day comes. Honestly, this whole getting married in your early 30's thing is fairly new. In 1990, the average age of marriage for women was 24; in 1980 it was 22; and back in the 50s, it was only 20.

If you truly think you're ready for marriage at this time in your lives and feel you understand all the commitment/responsibility it entails, then I think that's totally fine. Actually, it's a great thing to find your life-long partner so early on!

I feel ya on this. It is frustrating. I'll be 27 on our wedding day which is also our 11 year anniversary. When we were like 18-21, everyone would say "oh you're so young, you sure you want to be in a relationship?" blah blah blah. Now I'm having people say "why'd you wait so long to get married? You'll be old by the time you have a baby!" so even if you decided to wait until you're a little older, have been together longer, lived together, saved money, performed miracles, won the lottery, invented a free renewable energy for whole world, people are going to have something negative to say about it.

We both work in the blue collar world and the old guys we work with are always joking (kind of?) that marriage is the WORST and boy what a mistake we are making. I've started to say "well john, sorry YOU married the wrong person, but fh and I actually LIKE each other! weird I know!".

So my advice would be to literally just say "well good thing YOU aren't getting married at 21!" haha. But seriously, people are going to have something negative to say whether it is the 'perfect' situation or not. And as PP said, don't book vendors who say you're too young or are rude.

It's not just you younger couples who get weird/rude comments and looks. We are at the other end of the timeline (51 and 52), and I get those too!! Only for me, although no vendor/professional has said the words out loud, I can see that look on their face when I tell them I'm the bride--that "omg you're so old" look. I went to a wedding fair with my FMIL and my daughter a few months ago. The entire time, every time we approached a vendor booth, the people there would scan our faces, and zoom right in to my daughter and ask something like "oh such a beautiful bride, when are you getting married?" She's 27, so it's understandable, but some were so surprised when she'd say it was her mother getting married, not her. Some were down right rude, if you ask me. I made a lot of mental notes that day on who NOT to hire. On the flip side, some were truly professional, and you'd never know they were surprised to find an older bride (even if they were, they were professional enough not to show it). At the show, after this happened a few times, my daughter started hiding behind me every time we approached a new booth. lol

I tend to think people are clueless, rude and generally insensitive anyway. Your story (and mine) just proves I'm right.

My uncle said I was too young to get married and I am 26 lol I feel old. I know people who got engaged young but waited a few years to actually get married. But when you know you know. I actually don't think vendors asked us how old we were, but if you both actually look young maybe they just ask out of curiosity. I think there is a stigma that 21 is fresh out of college or really still in college and it takes a lot of adjustment to move out, get a stable job, be financially stable, own a home/rent an apartment. These weren't such big feats for our parents years ago. Myself personally, could never have imagined marrying my fiance when I was 21, we weren't ready. But do what is best for you all. Ignore them, you're adults, you decide your life path.

BAM
Sorry this is late but I wanted to comment and empathize with you. We’re both 19, completely financially independent and have a very solid savings. We’re both in four year universities and work, each making over double minimum wage.
Unfortunately it hasn’t gotten better since we got married. When we were on our honeymoon we accidentally broke a vase in our Airbnb and the host called us “entitled kids” (even tho we replaced it with a $50 vase). I work as a nanny and the kids I watch tell me all the time how their mom told them she’d not let them marry that young because it’s irresponsible. Whenever I babysit for a new family or meet someone new, I often refer to my husband as my boyfriend now. I’m just done with it. My advise is just push through it and try your best to ignore everyone else. Message me if you need support ❤️