Wwyd? “salute” or “kiss” the bride

I'd ask him to say kiss because salute sounds super formal an odd lol

View Quoted Comment Ok relieved to see I’m not just over thinking it haha

If the word kiss doesn't bother you, ask to use kiss. Salute does sound strange - almost like you're going to high five or something instead of kiss to seal your bond.

Although, if it was just a phone call, maybe he was just using salute in conversation? I know in phone calls/emails our officiant used "seal your union" but when it came to the actual ceremony he used kiss. I don't know, just a thought!

View Quoted Comment Kiss doesn’t bother me, it’s the way I’ve always imagined it. I’m pretty sure that’s how he’s planning on saying it come wedding day because he was going word for word on that specific moment in the ceremony and even stopped and asked my fiancé if he knew that that meant to kiss me. I wish I would’ve said something in the moment but it just caught me off guard.

Lol I'm picturing an army salute to each other. I've never heard anybody say salute your wife!

I’ve heard officiants use “salute” before. I think it’s kinda cute. A salute is a gesture of respect, so it’s actually quite fitting, but I do probably prefer “kiss”.

Yes I would have him say "kiss." If you're not a high ranking officer in the military I see no reason to salute lol!

View Quoted Comment Agreed! How do you recommend going about asking the pastor? I don’t want to come off too harsh or controlling

View Quoted Comment Yes, I’ve heard it before and so I googled it and it seems to be more customary in African American cultures. Nothing wrong with it, just not how I envisioned that moment

View Quoted Comment Omg I wouldn’t want my guest waiting for the same thing lol! Not sure how to approach the pastor about changing how he says it without coming off harsh tho

View Quoted Comment If you're emailing him, I would say something like, "Hi Pastor So-and-so! Thanks so much for meeting with us and going over all the details of the wedding. We're so excited for and blessed to have you be part of our important day! We just had one change we woud like to make in order to fit the occasion and our personalities a bit better. Instead of saying "You may salute the bride" we would like you to say "You may kiss the bride." This has been a tradition in our family weddings and we would like to carry it on, as well."

I went on a limb with that last sentence but since it's been done that way for ages on end (and likely at your mom and dad's wedding etc) you could always use the tradition card to help as well.

View Quoted Comment Yes! Thanks so much for this!

At least you found out ahead of time! We eloped in Hawaii and was so confused when he said that.