My parents and I didn't have a good relationship throughout my engagement and they refused to help with anything until the... DAY of the wedding. I am very bitter about this and neither my mom or I have talked since ...
Example of SOME of our Issues...
* 5 minutes before walking me down the aisle, my dad decided to pay for all the beer after my husband and I had spent $1000 on drink tickets - making the drink tickets we bought only good for soda or wine.. my husband and I spent most of our wedding night begging people to take the drink tickets because people around here usually drink beer and that was going on my dad's tab...
* My mom sent me a text literally 15 minutes prior to my hair appointment insisting that she pay for my hair and my bridesmaids - when it came to me asking if that included my makeup her response was "I guess"... (I had money set aside to cover all of it but because I didn't want to fight with her on my wedding day I let her pay for it.)
* 3 months before the wedding my mom told me I was a bad aunt and that I would look bad for not having my 2 & 3 year old nephews in the wedding and that I had picked a friend to sing instead of asking my sister-in-law (who is buddy's with my mom and doesn't like me anyway)
* My mom me that they should be able to invite more guests to the wedding because it's my first marriage and my husband's second. My parents had 150+ guests on their list when the venue sat 300. My husband and I and his parents had to trim down our own lists (my husband & I are both 35+ and each had a list of our own friends). However, my parents DID offer to PAY for their guests friends when I told them I wasn't paying for their friends, neighbors and church people to attend the wedding.
* My mom always did a lot of sewing growing up and had a business when we were little, she sewed my sister's garter, sewed the wagon cover for my brother's wedding but when it came to my wedding she had every excuse in the world not to make my garter (I asked her 4 times) yet she altered my sister's bridesmaid dress...
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Anyway - I'm done with all my thank yous EXCEPT my parents.... Anyone have any wording advice for me? I'm at a blank of what to say...
Here's what we received as wedding gifts from them...
My mom re-made the recipe box full of family recipes ( I told her it was the only thing I wanted - I've been asking her for one for 2 years now - my old recipe box that she gave me years ago got lost when I moved in with my husband 2 years ago) We also received 2 sets of silverware and a very generous check from them.
It's very hard to write a positive and heartfelt thank you when I have nothing positive to say - the whole engagement and wedding was a fight and we haven't spoken. My dad has told me that talking about my wedding is off limits if I do talk to her.