Would you unask a flower girl to be in your wedding if...

Is your date correct that you're getting married in a month?

If it's incorrect I would say wait it out. Sometimes children react and it may truly be that she didn't get it. If she is shy or uneasy in crowds you can reach out to mom and let her know it's totally fine if she doesn't want to do it.

If your date is correct I would give it a day or two before you reach back out. You don't have a lot of time to get her an outfit if she does decide she wants to do it.

I recommend you discuss this with her mom first to make sure it’s something the child really wants to do. If it’s clear that the mom is forcing it then tell her you don’t think it’s fair to anyone if she is pressured into being a flower girl when she doesn’t want to be.

I think her mom is right, she doesn’t understand what you’re asking her. I think once she sees your daughter doing it , she’ll be excited and want to do it

Give her time to think about it. I have a 6yr old son who tells me he doesn't want to do things all the time lol Try talking to her, explain what she would be doing, see if she gets excited about getting a new dress and go from there.

Pretty sure I said the exact same thing until I got presents and got to wear a princess dress. Highlight the fun part, right now she sees it as a job her mom wants her to do so of course being 6 she doesn’t want to.

My aunt got me a very fluffy dress, a pretty locket and a stuffed rabbit. This was the 90s, gosh that dress was so puffy! Thanks for the funny memory.

Yeah, I'd definitely try to talk to her and her mom to see if she actually wants to do it. To her, I'd mention the fun parts - a cute dress, getting to toss petals, getting a present, being the center of attention for a little bit. To her mom, talk logistics - whether she likes being the center of attention, if she might throw a fit and back out the morning of, etc.

Ask her if she will be the Flower Girl Assistant/Helper. To help your Daughter get down the Aisle.

Her mom is right about her just not understanding. I asked my cousin when she was 4 (she was 5 at the wedding). She said no and continued watching Curious George. My aunt was like "she'll do it, she'll love it." Later that day we went on a walk and my cousin was picking flowers and throwing the petals, so I told her that's what she'd do at my wedding and she said "yes I'll do that and then I can meet your cat?" lol. When the wedding came she was a flower girl with my 8 year old sister in law and everything went great!

I'd say in your case as long as your cousins isn't an extremely shy child, she'll be fine. Just keep her as a flower girl and she'll make it down the aisle

Wait it out! My nephew was three when I asked him and he panicked and refused to do it. I bought him a book called the Ring Bear and he was very upset and having an identity crisis over it lol it was funny. But now he is very excited to be my ring bearer and wants to pick out his clothes and every time he sees people dressed up he gets excited and asks if they’re getting married. Give it time she will warm up.

I did. I asked my FH to be readers. They are 10 and 11. Their mom said they will do it but when I talked to them about it they said they didn't want to. I said they didn't have to so I didn't really unask just didn't force them to do something they don't want to do. I told them they didn't have to and we would get someone else.

I would just keep the plan as having her as a flower girl. If the day of the wedding she balks and refuses to participate, just have her sit with her parents and watch with everyone else. My niece was four when she was a flower girl and was all about it, until the day of. Then she wanted nothing to do with it, until half way through the ceremony. So half way through she walked down the isle spreading her petals. You don’t ever really know what the little ones are going to do, but it’s not worth stressing over it either for that reason. Besides that, I would be more worried about the mothers feelings if you uninvited her daughter to be flower girl. It’s probably not even worth the hurt feelings. But you can definitely discuss it with the mom as you day gets closer.