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Krys
Just Said Yes September 2021

Would you push your wedding date back a year for the perfect venue?

Krys, on July 2, 2019 at 3:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 14
Exactly what the subject says. We visited our favorite venue today and our ideal date is taken, with the only other available days over a month later, and earlier than we’d like. The two dates we would like are important to us; they’re grandparent anniversaries (my paternal and his maternal). Moving the wedding back a year would give us better time to plan and save up, too.

Would you do it if it meant getting your favorite venue on the dates you want the most?

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Latest activity by Arielle, on July 3, 2019 at 12:41 PM
  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·
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    How many venues have you visited? Are there any other venues near you that are like this perfect venue and available on that date?

    You can definitely push back the wedding a year if this is no doubt the perfect venue and you are both on board for that! It is your wedding and it should be perfect for you.

    Good luck!

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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
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    We were initially thinking September this year when we got engaged in February, but as we started researching we realized it would be too overwhelming to plan everything in 7 months. I feel like next September is so far away and we’re both ready to just be married now, but I’m grateful for the time to save and plan, and complete our many diy projects! I don’t think I’d want to push the wedding back another year, but I might consider an elopement on the original date and use the extra year to save for a bigger vow renewal at the ideal venue. Ultimately, it’s up to you and what the two of you want and are comfortable with. Good luck!
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I absolutely would. In fact, we did move our date out more than 9 months. It wasn't because of venue availability, but it was because of our budget. Once we started researching and discovered the costs associated with a wedding, we knew we'd need more time to save for the wedding we wanted. So, that's what we did. It's been hard waiting even longer to marry my love, but we're less than a year out now, and it's been fine. More than fine, actually as our savings are on track, and I've had more time to research and get bargains.

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    Absolutely not. To me, that seems crazy. But to each his own.

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  • Allie
    Master August 2019
    Allie ·
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    Absolutely not. I would find another venue. To me, the venue doesn't matter that much, but the person I'm marrying does. We didn't want to wait any longer.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    We wouldn't, we knew we wanted to get married in summer 2020 (but were open to July or August). We had a long engagement already - 19 months - I would not have wanted to wait a whole entire year longer.

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  • C
    Super January 2020
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    I would find another venue or choose another date. I didn’t want to wait that long to get married, I would have eloped if my FH would of agreed.
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    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    No, I wanted to be married more than I wanted a specific venue.
    Day of I was just as happy as I would have been had I gone with what I absolutely wanted, which was to get married at Disney. Not once on my wedding day did I think “man if only we were at Disney.”
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
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    I definitely would not. You can make something else work! The important thing isn't your dream venue, it's your dream hubby!

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    The venue was a top priority to us. Makes a huge difference in photos, experience, memories. I’d wait a year or choose a different date.
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    I definitely wouldn't push my date back a year - partly because we've been dating for almost 7 years, and partly because I think the extra time to plan would make me more anxious than it would be helpful. If I was in your shoes, I'd decide what was more important: the date, or the venue. If it's the date, pick another venue. If it's the venue, be willing to compromise on the date by a month or so.

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  • Concetta
    Super March 2020
    Concetta ·
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    Yes, I think it may even be a sign to push it back Smiley smile give yourself more time to save and plan and be stress free

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  • Lauren
    Dedicated December 2019
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    I think it really depends on your specific situation. If you had it earlier, could you afford it? I got engaged Dec 2017 and I was SO set on having our date be 12/1/18. But we're paying for it ourselves and realistically, we knew we couldn't even enjoy being engaged and would be jumping right into planning & deposits. So I made the decision to push it back until Dec 2019. It was hard at first because I just wanted to get married, but it was definitely better in the long run. It allowed us to save up, pay deposits at different times, enjoy a long engagement and take breaks with the planning. And believe me, when they say time flies it's SO true. I'm 5 months out and I can't believe it! If you're dead set on the dates then I would say push it back and enjoy the time in between!

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    It seems like the date you want is pretty important to you, and you definitely can save more. I personally wouldn't want to push it out another year, but that's my personal opinion. Follow your heart!

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