Would you include your groom's parent's names if your parents were hosting?

I would just go with putting your parents' names on the invite. That's how it's done traditionally. Then again I'm traditional in a lot of my opinions.

I'm doing "son of..." I think it's nice to acknowledge them

I agree, I would just put your parents.

I think with that wording (his parents' names) it is obvious your parents are hosting/doing the inviting.

If both sets of parents were hosting, you'd put both sets of names before yours and your FH's.

I like "son of." It honors them but doesn't suggest they're doing something they're not.

We did not include "son of" because my parents are paying for about 90% of the wedding, with FH and I contributing the rest.

Yes I personally would. Actually we are hosting but I included both sets of parents names anyway. My FMIL would definitely be hurt if she was excluded, hosting or not.

In my culture it is an "old school" traditional way to write invitations. For my invitations in Spanish that's what I'll be writing just to humor my mom. For my invitations in English it'll show that FH and I are paying for the wedding. I think it's a personal preference. If you want to include his parents then do so.

Since your parents are hosting have you asked them what they think?

While there is nothing wrong with "son of" if his parents aren't hosting they shouldn't be listed. The invitation is issued by the hosts and is not the place to "honor" the other parents. You can do that in the program. If you were throwing a birthday party for your child you wouldn't list your sister's name on the invitation because she isnt' hosting. Same thing.

We didn't include son of because my FH didn't want it. Ask your FH what he thinks.

My mom said she thinks it is a lot of words, but also doesn't want to be rude. Neither of us are quite sure what to do.

I guess neither of us really want to, but just want to make sure it isn't RUDE if we do not.

It's not rude if you don't. At all. If both or neither set of parents is contributing and only one set is mentioned, it's a different story. But as @Jeleebeenz said, the invitation is issued by the hosts, aka whoever is paying. It's up to them to decide what to write.

If your parents are hosting their names should be on the invitations. If his are not, I would leave them off.

We're paying for our wedding & we're putting both parents' names out of respect for both.

I'm also listing my parents (eg):

Mr Yorkstead Weartherbottom & Mrs Haughty Weatherbottom

Request the honor of your presence to the marriage of their daughter Bridetilda Weatherbottom

To

Mr Luscious Lushbottom

On June 7th at the HighFalooting Hall in Rubberneck NY

I'm not including his parents name because 1) there aren't hosting. 2) I feel that including the groom's parents name is old fashioned tradition primarily done because of societal conventions such as the groom was from a noteworthy family or a recognized name (in smaller towns) and/or it matched what was listed in wedding announcements in the newspaper where the parents of both the bride & groom were mentioned.

This was done to show which family was marrying into which family. I believe it's traced back to English gentry and aristocracy--the noteworthy rich in NyC, Boston, Charlestown, Newport RI, (insert other eastern cities) wanted to copy what the wedding traditions the aristocracy & gentry were doing in England. ETA: words

It actually didn't fit, on our invitations, since they were square.

My parents paid for everything, and there were a lot of unsolicited suggestions, from the groom's side. Not one dollar was offered, despite having an 83 person guest list, for the groom's parents third. My father had absolutely had it, at the time the invitations were ordered, so when my Mom suggested we use a smaller font, in order to have the room for a line for his parents' names, he said "No pay, no say," so that was it.

They issued their own invitations, to the rehearsal picnic.

It's not rude to leave them off, but that doesn't mean they definitely won't be hurt if you leave them off. It depends how sensitive your FILs are. My parents would not have cared one way or the other, but my FILs would have been hurt. And they would not have told us, they just would have been sad and complained about it behind our backs. I figured I didn't care enough about it to potentially upset my FMIL. It's not that big a deal, so if it's something that will make your FMIL happy, why not do it? Mine was THRILLED when she got the invitations, and called FH right away to say how much she loved them.

Part of it is that I have seen "son of" on invitations where the groom's parents were not hosting. I know my FILs got the same invitation we did, so I was concerned they would think "our friends were on their son's invitations" if we had left them off. If it isn't done much that way in your FIL's circle, and your FILs aren't always comparing themselves to their friends, you don't have to worry about it as much.

I don't think it matters one way or another, but I think the more common route would be to leave them off if it's just your parents contributing financially. There will be many other ways your FILs will be honored that day, they are the parents of the groom after all!

I don't think 'billing' should dictate invites. Have the conversation. Are your parents hosting it because they expected they would (in the most traditional sense of paying for wedding stuff)?

@Celia,

My parents hosted because FH's parents expected them to and, for lack of better words, outright refused to contribute when asked.'