Would you change your wedding date due to your period?? ugggg

Could you just take birth control?

I agree with PP, if birth control is an option just take it through your period. Otherwise, no, personally I wouldn’t change my date but everyone is affected differently.

That sounds like a lot of expense and coordination for your period. I can’t even imagine the headache of changing everything - even if the new dates are available?
There is time to talk to your dr about ways to mitigate pain during the period or skipping that month.

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I can't take BC due to blood clot history.

I suffer from extreme endometriosis, so I completely understand where you’re coming from. The first two days of my cycle are absolute torture - super heavy flow, intense cramping not only in the pelvic/tummy area, but also in my lower back. Hormonal triggered headaches. Hot flashes. I literally spend 2-3 days in bed with infra red heating pads, and taking prescription painkillers. I have been tracking my cycle on a phone app, which has been surprisingly accurate at predicting my start date. I scheduled my wedding around those dates. If, for some godforsaken reason my cycle shifts and I am on day 1-3, I will definitely be postponing. I think it really depends on how horrible your cycle is. If it’s like mine, you may want to consider it. I know for sure there’s no way I would even be able to walk down the aisle on days 1-3, let alone enjoy myself in any way. So sorry this is happening to you!!

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Im pretty sure I have endometriosis too.. I get severe cramps and bloating. I thankfully only bleed bad on day 1.. by day 2 I spot. but the pain is horrible 2 full days... I take advil and tylenol every 6 hours and nothing really helps my pain. I am not sure but it sucks completely that this is happening. I should have checked the dates but I was trying to schedule when we both had our kids .. so upsetting.. Also if i am ever a day late, I will be on day 1 that day which would be horrid.

Have you factored in everything such as duration and accounting for months ending in 31 days vs 30? This was also one of my major concerns! My period kept falling on the same week every month but it kept occurring like A day earlier in the month prior, so right now if I stay on track I will be able to completely bypass my period on my wedding. This is definitely a major concern for me as well! I definitely don’t think you should postpone! The decision is ultimately up to you obviously But to lose out on all of that money and potentially upset some of your guests that may have already requested time out or have a certain date planned etc. may not be worth it. Maybe you can talk to your GYN about possible methods of stalling your period so to speak LOL I don’t even know if that exists, but maybe talk with them. Things like birth control can be risky if you plan on having children after but I’m no doctor. I’m just another Rando bride on the Internet lol!

So sorry for you! I would stick it out despite the period but there are a lot of elements at play in that decission that make me more comfortable where you might not be. Are you comfortable sharing your specific concerns?


Some factors I considered: If your dress is form fitting you might not be able to double up with pad & tampon (although shape wear might be enough this isn't an issue). Severity of cramps and if you usually get headaches also comes into play. You might be worried about it effecting your wedding night, depending on you and your SO.

View Quoted Comment Do you use a heating pad? It is literally a lifesaver for me! it works better than painkillers! If you haven’t been using one, I highly suggest you try it. And if you get back cramps as well, use 2- One on the front and one on the back. Another lifesaver has been the disposable heat wraps by ThermaCare. You can wear them under your clothes all day at work, running errands, etc. and they really help with the cramps. Make sure you get the wraps for the back though, don’t waste your time with the ones they market for menstrual cramps. They are too small and not as powerful. Just wear the one for your back backwards, so the heated part is low on your tummy.

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I get pretty signifiant cramps , exhaustion. I don't sleep well. I get back pain and pain down thighs. horrible bloating . By day 2, i am only spotting but still have bad pain.. I feel huge with bloating as well

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I have a blood clot disorder and can't be on BC sadly.. Also, I have period tracker

I am pretty much like clock work, so based on calendar, I will be on cycle day 2.. If for any reason I am a day late, i would be on day 1 which would completely suck. IF i start to get it on day 28 again, it would shift and i would be on cycle day 3 at wedding- this is fine, cause I feel good by day3.. so annoyed I did not take this into account.. so frustrated.. It looks like chapel is available two weeks later- idkk about everything else though. I can check? uggg

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Yes even heating pad doesn't help.. plus can't use pn wedding day really

View Quoted Comment But you could definitely wear the disposable heat wrap!

View Quoted Comment Omg girl, I feel like we are living the same story. I have a clotting disorder as well! I wonder if there are any correlations between the two issues

I wouldn't.

i don't have a very fluid period. fluid as in it's not always "on time" it's hard for me to expect an exact date. i get a period once a month though! but i definitely don't get mine exactly when it's supposed to so if i were to do that, i wouldn't be able to know when i'd have a period but even then you know i think i'd just deal with it as best i could :/

I would not move a wedding for something that is not guaranteed. Particularly because stress can throw your cycle out of whack and weddings are super stressful leading up to them, so there’s a good chance that even a very normal period will shift schedule around a wedding. Instead, I’d focus on what you can do for your body— id bring these concerns to your gynecologist ASAP and maybe they can help you with alternative solutions, maybe trying to delay or induce a period to shift your cycle, or even just something to help mitigate the pain

I feel your pain. I get REALLY severe periods and I'm down for the count for at least 2 days. I get sick too, there's no way I'd be able to get married on my wedding day if my period were happening. I've talked to my gyno about it all and they at one point were able to give me some stronger pain meds, just as a temporary fix. Maybe talk to yours about doing that for you? If you haven't sent anything out yet and didn't spend money, I'd of course say switch it. But if you're going to be losing out a lot...probably not the best idea unfortunately .

I wish since my period pains are severe. I wouldn't have the choice, it would waste so much money to reschedule I rather start birth control

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Wow! Factor V ? I wonder.. it is horrible, isn't it??

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Im gonnA check if vendors are available two weeks later. the chapel is right now.. Also if i do painkillers, can i drink that night? I just want to enjoy it..