Would you care if mother in law wore this?

Personally I don't see this outfit as an issue unless you're having a formal wedding and it isn't dressy enough. It's clear that this outfit isn't bridal and the top isn't fully white.

For me personally, I wouldn’t mind it at all. I originally didn’t want to wear a white dress anyway. I think this is fine. You mentioned your old school, so I’d assume you’re not entirely okay with it? I know rule of thumb is to not tell anyone what they should/can wear. But if it bothers you maybe you’d bring it up? Now if it were an all white dress or even white skirt, maybe but a shirt. I’d think she could get away with it.

That outfit isn't bridal, so I wouldn't have an issue with it in that sense. My main concern is similar to Sarah that it just may not be appropriate for the formality of the event. To me, it looks like she's going to work at the office rather than to a wedding.

I agree with Sarah and Hannah, I wouldn't like it just for the formality of the outfit. As far as the white goes, I personally wouldn't care because if anyone looks bad about the decision it's the mom.

I have to echo the sentiments of previous posters. I don’t have any issue with the color she wore; this does not look Bridal in anyway. However, it does seem incredibly informal for a wedding, especially for the mother of one of the people getting married. Its definitely more business casual than honored wedding guest. But, if the event was informal/casual, then I don’t see any issue with this outfit.

I don't get why people would ever wear white as a guest - sure, this isn't that intense but its just unnecessary when literally any other colour would be better lol.

No, I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't be impressed either!

I see and feel as though there is no issue with that outfit, if that is an outfit that she feels good in, happy, and comfortable in then that's all that would matter to me because it's not as if the top and bottom pieces are solid white (even the top is polka dotted with the navy blue).

Do you think she had malicious intent to upstage you? Look at intent. She probably wore polkadots because she was comfortable and felt pretty.

I don’t see any issue with this dress. Some wedding forums I have visited say that any amount of white is too much, whether it’s tiny white polka dots on a colored dress or a solid color dress with white thread holding the tag in, and that each one deserves red wine deliberately thrown on the guest.


The “don’t wear white” rule means don’t wear something that will be confused as a wedding dress. This clearly doesn’t look like a wedding dress.

I think this outfit is ok!

Completely depends on the dress code. It's not bridal but it's quite casual. A lot of people wore prints on a white background to my wedding, and I noticed, but I know none of them were doing it with rude intent.

If she wants to wear it let her. Since its not all white I think its fine but you know what if someone dresses inappropriately at your wedding its a reflection on them not you and people will talk about THEM for years. My parents still talk about the groomsmen's gf who showed up to their formal wedding in a bright red micro micro mini dress

I don't mind the white, but I would mind the outfit because it's not dressy enough. You could ask her to wear something dressier and avoid your concern with the white altogether.

That wouldn't bother me in the slightest. If you feel this is a passive aggressive outfit, that is likely due to your relationship with her outside of any fashion choices. If that is the case, I would think long and hard about what battles are really important in your life. In all likelihood, this battle is absolutely not worth fighting. Let it go and move on with your life.

Nope. My MIL wore something very similar to our wedding (white blouse, black slacks) and my great-aunt wore a long white mumu. It had zero effect on our wedding day. I do have great relationships with both, so I know they weren’t worn out of spite, which also factors into my feelings of indifference toward the white.

Honestly I’m kind of over the bride being the only one to wear white. My best friend we’re way to the wedding and I honestly loved it did not bother me one bit. I don’t see the passive aggressiveness in this at all.

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Tbh I might be a bit annoyed, especially as it sounds like there's a rocky relationship underneath that would indicate FMIL purposefully chose to wear white with malicious intent. "Don't wear white" is a pretty simple rule to follow, and there's tons of other things that someone could choose to wear. I wouldn't let it ruin my wedding day, but I'd certainly have some feelings about it lol.

It wouldn't matter to me as much if the relationship was good; but if it's not (personally going through that too!), then I would say that's not okay because then you're left questioning if she's doing this on purpose just to hurt you (especially if she knows you're more traditional).

I don't see an issue with the outfit. She looks comfortable and age appropriate. She could have come with jeans and a sweater. Looks like she really put thought into her attire. And I'm sure it did not take away from your dress at all💜