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Beginner August 2022

Would you book a venue without visiting in person first?

Sarah, on June 11, 2020 at 5:52 PM Posted in Planning 1 12

I'm originally from Pennsylvania and planning my Philadelphia-area wedding for 2022. I currently live in the UK, where my partner is from, so I'm doing everything at an EXTREME social distance!

We'd planned to visit around Thanksgiving and schedule tours of potential venues for then, so we could get save the dates out early next year (we want to give a longer lead time for UK-based guests who will need to save / plan ahead). However, the pandemic has potentially changed those plans. Of course, this could change, but at the moment you have to quarantine for two weeks on either side of the flight, and neither of us can really take five or six weeks off work. My concern is that this won't change by the end of the year.

I have a very promising venue in mind that I'm about 95 per cent sure I'll choose, even if I visit others while stateside. It's the ideal size and great price points for the centre of the city. My question is, would you ever book a venue without visiting first? Up to now my answer would have been no, but I'm starting to consider it! I just want to move forward with planning and feel stuck until the venue is sorted out, which could be put on hold until next year at this rate... I do have family in the area who could possibly visit, but I'm not sure that's quite the same as seeing it yourself.

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Latest activity by Nefetera, on June 12, 2020 at 2:47 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think i would want someone to vet the venue for me if i was in your shoes. so if you have family near by that can go in person and get some real photos or video clips to send you and just let you know how they feel overall about it, then i'd do that first

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I agree with Melle that someone local could vet it for you. Alternatively, you could ask them to do a Facetime/Skype/other video chat meeting with you and show you the venue so you can see that it matches the pictures you're seeing online.

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  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
    Molly ·
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    I would definitely read reviews and do a virtual walk through with the venue.

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  • Kevin
    Super October 2021
    Kevin ·
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    I wouldn’t boom sight unseen, but if you have someone you know go through it to get a feel or FaceTime you through the process and do a virtual tour that would be fine! If you already have such a strong feeling about it I would do a virtual tour and if nothing feels wrong book it!
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  • H
    Devoted August 2023
    Hhh ·
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    I would definitely have a family member/friend visit and do a virtual tour for you. I’m planning my wedding in a different state from where I live and my parents did a lot of preliminary visits for me. I was shocked how much my opinions changed about venues seeing them in non-professional pictures! Many of the pix a venue posts are of styled shoots or extravagant weddings; seeing places without excessive decor/flowers/furniture rentals/draping changed my mind (since my budget doesn’t includes thousands for those). Also talking to the owners for the length of a tour brought out things I wouldn’t have realized via email or phone call (one venue let us tour after another bride had set up- they just shoved her dress/accessories out of the way to show us the mirror!) Your family can also get a better feel for layout (how close is ceremony to cocktail hr and reception? is parking lot near ceremony and potentially disruptive? how do you get to the aisle without being seen? is the only women’s bathroom upstairs?). In summary, I wound up visiting my top contenders and booked the place they liked best after visiting, rather than the one I was CERTAIN I loved!
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  • Anna
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    Anna ·
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    I agree with the others about having someone you trust go for you. And I would probably also want to zoom/FaceTime through it. Also, see about reaching out to the venues you’re considering to see if they might be willing to give you a zoom tour. That’s what many real estate agents have been doing due to COVID for house showings.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I would not book a venue without seeing it in person. At the very least, I would have a family member or friend who is local go see it and FaceTime you during their tour. Not only is it important to actually see the space, but meeting the venue staff is incredibly important!
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  • S
    Beginner August 2022
    Sarah ·
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    Thanks all, your comments are pretty much what I think deep down -- I'm just too excited to move forward so I'm impatient lol!

    I'm still hoping I'll just be able to visit myself later this year, but if worst comes to worst, I have godparents nearby who I'd trust to visit in my place, and I'm sure I could do a Zoom/Skype meeting. I agree that meeting the venue coordinators (virtually or in person) is a good idea too.

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  • Michelle
    Super October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    No, sometimes you get a different feeling in person. I saw a venue I thought I wanted but when I saw it in person it was a definite no lol.
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  • K
    Devoted July 2021
    Kendra ·
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    With family being in the area I would definitely see if they can visit for you, and see if you can find someone who you KNOW you can trust their taste or has similar taste/ style as yours. Have them take video and pictures for you as well. Venues are also starting to do virtual tours now so that’s another option for you.
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    Super February 2020
    Andrea ·
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    I think it depends how many people you’re going to have. I had an intimate, less than 10 people, and we didn’t take a look at our ceremony site in Hawaii. We did stay at the hotel years before and knew we would eventually come back, perhaps for a wedding? But, as far as the ceremony site we were relying on photos we had seen online and the word of our officiant.


    If we were having 50+ guests I would definitely want to visit the location and to meet everyone in person. But, we opted for a smaller wedding and we also didn’t have time to fly to Hawaii to check everything out because, at least I was, trying to work OT to save for the wedding.
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  • Nefetera
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    Its too ways video you can do or me personally I would have to see for myself. You dont wanna pay for somewhere and its not what you expected
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