Would you be hesitant to share your wedding information in advance?

I had a friend ask for mine a bit early because her job wanted to see it so she could request the time off. I think it depends how early because it's possible the invitations haven't been designed yet. In your case, since we're all on a wedding planning forum, you probably know to expect invites 6–8 weeks in advance. I'm not sure what's stopping you from booking the train now, though. You don't even need to see the invite, just the start time, so I recommend just asking her that.

Just ask her when the start time is so you know

She probably doesn't have the invites in hand yet.
But reach out and ask for the start time (and other relevant info) that should be no problem!

I'd say check her wedding website first to see if those details are listed there. I listed the locations, addresses, and times on mine for that exact reason.

Not at all. The earlier the better!

If it meant there was a better chance they could come, I would 100% give my guest info they need/I have for them to be able to arrange travel.

I mean I wouldn’t give out an invitation early (and frankly I couldn’t have— they weren’t made and ordered til shortly before they had to go out), but I would be happy to field any questions to help with scheduling and planning! I’d be excited actually to hear they were already proactively making plans!


We actually did have some people reach out for that purpose, and we gave any info we had. There was someone trying to determine if they’d have time to take the train that morning— they may have even asked early enough that our start time wasn’t totally set in stone yet. But we were able to give them enough guidance of general tome of day and what train options would be totally safe that they were able to book their tickets.
The only info I wouldn’t give out was what wasnt finalized yet! But I’d certainly also be happy to tell them as much too.

I did not have my invites finalized very far in advance of mailing them but would have been happy to share the details you are asking about. You should ask your friend directly and if they have not finalized those details they can tell you that.

I would word it that you want to book the train and any info she could give you in advance of the invites being sent so that you could book your travel would be helpful.

We sent our save the dates a few weeks ago but our invites aren't going out until this fall, I don't have them yet. So if one of my guests asked for it, I'd have to say sorry, I don't even have them yet, but what info can I give you to help!

She probably will have a ton go info that she can give you to help. I dont think its odd/wrong/or rude to ask, but ask for info rather than the invite and explain why.

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If the wedding doesn't start until the afternoon, we can catch the train the morning of rather than overnight (I don't have too much time I can take off work) and if we have to take the overnight train, I want a sleeper carriage but they are very expensive (and few) hence why I'd like the information in advance because I don't want to miss out on a sleeper carriage if we will need one.

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They don't have a wedding website - there has been nothing out yet besides save the dates.

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We definitely don't need an invitation yet with the specifics but just a rough time frame and location so we can book the appropriate journey.

I definitely think I will ask though - I mean the worst case scenario is that she doesn't have the information yet to give me!

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Ohhh I gotcha. Then I'd say there's no harm in reaching out to ask Maybe she's more organized than I am, but our wedding is a few months after and we definitely don't have our invites designed or ordered yet lol.

I would actually really appreciate a guest reaching out early to make plans to come! It shows you care and want to be there for your friend.

That far in advance, they may not even have specific times and invites may not be printed yet, while others have already sent them to everyone. But if you ask, they can give you a ballpark time of the day. I don’t see any harm in asking that. Call or email to find out.

View Quoted Comment I would just ask her the timing of the wedding. I wouldn’t think that would offend her or make her mad. Do you know someone else in the bridal party? Maybe you can ask them if they know the timing if you don’t want to go direct to the bride.