I have 2 older cousins who I looked up to growing up. There was a big age gap but since we've gotten older, we got along really well. Another cousin - Debbie, I did not meet until I was much older but we hit it off right away. I asked her to be one of my bridesmaids. I asked the 2 older cousins' younger sister bc we were always close since we were teenagers. I didn't ask the 2 older cousins bc I didn't want to offend their young sister. They were bridesmaids for her wedding and I didn't want to give the impression to their sister that I'm just as close with her as they are them. Truth is - I'm the closest to the youngest sister, especially growing up but I have different relationships with the 2 older cousins
I talked to Debbie and she was surprised why I didn't ask the 2 older cousins (they're around the same age). she figured that I had more history with them growing up. I did - I saw them more and I would vent/make fun of boys with one of them. We didn't have super conversations but there was always an understanding and good rapport. I stayed in a hotel room with one of them when their youngest sister was married. They were one of the first I texted when I was engaged. Debbie said that if I had asked them, they may say, "yes". I keep thinking about it. I've been on and off (about asking them) since I was asking girls to be bridesmaids.
I could totally be honest and say, "look - i had both of you in mind and i can't stop thinking about it but i've been too chicken to ask. I'm sorry it's too late. You just need to show up in a dress. I don't need anything else. I don't even need a gift! If you say, 'no', I won't be offended at all."
I don't know - I just don't want to regret not asking. Also, it's 2 months away. Such short notice. They've already RSVP'd and said they would come.
HELP!!
