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Dynesha
Devoted June 2020

Worst Wedding Experience

Dynesha, on October 5, 2019 at 10:14 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9
What has been your worst wedding experience and what did you learn from it for your own wedding?

My worst wedding experience: I was ousted as a bridesmaid at the last minute (literally an hour before the wedding) while simultaneously thrown into the role of day-of coordinator. I traveled to Paris, France for a good friend’s wedding and was made a bridesmaid. Bride allowed us to pick our own dresses in navy as long as she approved them. Wedding venue was an hour drive out into country so everyone dropped off was pretty much stuck out there. Bride asked me to help coordinate the flow of wedding which was fine since American wedding traditions are far different from the French. After lining up, I realized the groomsman I was assigned to was not actually in the wedding. I ended up sending everyone down the aisle except myself and didn’t participate in photos. It was very disheartening to be tossed aside like that.

What I learned: hired a Day-Of Coordinator and our siblings are our wedding party

9 Comments

Latest activity by Lexis, on November 1, 2019 at 3:01 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Hmmm I think it was the fact that at my wedding, the venue didn't let me have the set up that we had initially agreed upon. It didn't really matter at the end of the day but it was frustrating ya know? J
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    When my cousin got married, her new husband didn't even speak to me. I'm definitely going to make sure FH and I personally speak to everyone at the wedding, even if it's just a few seconds!

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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    Kosher wedding where the family couldn't pay for dairy OR meat kosher, so it was ... grains, faux-dairy products, some fruit, and that's about it.

    OH, and no one was served any food for HOURS, because there were traditions from the bride's family that were not explained/announced, but involved a lot of group dancing before eating.

    ...It was a brunch wedding. We didn't eat until well after 1PM. Everyone was starving.

    (Also, female guests were told to cover their shoulders to respect the synagogue. Fine, no problem. Except the bride wore a strapless dress.)
    Lesson learned: FEED YOUR GUESTS.

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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    I was supposed to be a Briddsmaid in a Wedding while I was unemployed. A “friend” that decided not to be in the Wedding was supposed to pay for my 👗.

    Get to the store and she won’t answer her phone. So, I ended up not getting it.

    So, here’s what had transpired:

    Instead of discussing it with me, the 👰and “friend” decided that she’d pay for another Bridesmaid’s (🤵’s Sister) 👗instead and didn’t even bother to tell me.

    She would’ve at least been paid back if she’d paid for my 👗. 😒

    Did I mention that I was NOT working and had driven 30 minutes one way (wasting ⛽️out of my tank and putting unnecessary miles on my 🚘) ?!

    Let’s not forget that the Marriage didn’t even last a year. You start how you want to finish.
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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    Lesson that I applied to my Wedding:

    Only ask people to participate if they felt that they could afford it.

    I also asked that they order 👗es that we’re comfortable, re-wearable, matched with everyone else, and covered up top.

    I of course had one that tried me on the last two requests. Her👗is WAY too light, but it looked okay. Then, I asked her to bring something to cover her up top so that she wouldn’t be hanging out.

    No one else was HALF exposed.

    She didn’t help with anything and left early. The Wedding was two weeks ago and I have not heard from her since that day.
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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    Worst wedding was my FH's cousin. They had an outdoor ceremony with minimal seating so most were standing. It was hot and the sun was beating down on us. The bride was an hour and 45 mins late. I got sunburnt and was uncomfortable the rest of night. Plus ae had a super long drive home, 17 hours, so the drive was uncomfortable from the sunburn.
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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
    Reena ·
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    I went to a wedding in which cocktail hour was over 2.5 hours. They started serving food when the bride and groom weren’t at the reception yet.

    I’m making sure our cocktail hour will be between 40-60 minutes
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I was in a wedding in 2014 as a bridesmaid. Her mom prepped all the food, and sent it with members of the church to cook it. The wedding party & bride & groom were the only people served (everyone else was buffet). For 1, we sat at a head table which I hate. It's so awkward and I'd way prefer to be sat with people I know, my family & friends, and my SO. And 2, the chicken was undercooked and there was a hair in the macaroni salad. I took 1 bite of each, realized how awful it was, and waited until after the wedding to go to in n out. On top of that, it was a dry wedding, they didn't arrange for transportation for the wedding party from the ceremony to the reception, and there was NO food for the wedding party all morning until dinner at the reception.

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  • Lexis
    Beginner October 2021
    Lexis ·
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    2 years ago my fiancé and I were invited to a wedding via text message while his bro got a real invite. Since we only got the front side of invite we didn’t know how to dress. So went with formal since it was at a church. Once we arrived it was very casual! I was. More formal than the bridesmaids lol
    during the ceremony the pastor talked about divorce 70% of the time ( to really set the mood) then what we thought was the cocktail hour was soggy cheese and stale bread because they set the table a day before so it wasn’t even appetizing...the real kicker:
    Later we found out only the people who had real invites got invited the reception and the rest had to go home.It was the weirdest wedding I ever attended. It was like a errand for the guest... lol
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