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Just Said Yes September 2020

Worst fear

Kyra, on October 20, 2019 at 8:38 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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Hi Brides!
I need some help😔 we're getting married in a little less then a year and I've been having huge panic attacks. But panic attacks that mean completly nothing and have come out of nowhere. We've been together for almost 8 years next month and it's been nothing but amazing with obviously a few tifts here and there but 2 months ago I had a panic attack that (all of a sudden) I wasn't into men anymore and then the next one was that I didn't love him anymore and lately we haven't been *ahem* "cuddling" as much as we used too. I'm just terrified about all of this anxiety and how it came out of nowhere. I need advice ladies. Is this just pre wedding jitters? Maybe that I'm just scared at the thought of settling down?

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Latest activity by Jo, on October 22, 2019 at 10:07 AM

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Caitlin · on October 20, 2019 at 9:09 PM
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I suspect there is a lot more going on underneath. It could be pre-wedding jitters combined with a bunch of other things. I think seeing a therapist might help you pinpoint the cause of the anxiety and walk you through healthy ways to ground yourself. I don't know your exact situation, but from my own personal experience, when you can isolate possible causes (Something in your past that affected your view of marriage, etc.) it can really help. For this exact reason I am taking a 2 year engagement to mentally adjust to the idea of being married and everything that entails. I'm already seeing results, but you have to make the leap.
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Renee · on October 21, 2019 at 12:56 AM
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I agree about seeing a therapist. I have anxiety and have panic attacks and take meds as needed. It helps. I'm not sure why you feel like you're not into men any more and why you feel like you don't love him. Sounds like something deeper. Therapy would definitely be the way to go
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Jo · on October 22, 2019 at 10:07 AM
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Another vote for therapy! I get panic attacks too and they are totally scary, you shouldn't have to deal with them on your own so reach out to a professional who can help guide you through them. Medicine, meditation, mindfulness... there are lots of ways to cope with panic attacks, plus counseling can help you get to the core of what might be causing these to crop up all of a sudden.
You titled this discussion "worst fear". What is that fear, exactly? Are you worried you aren't attracted to your partner? Are you worried the relationship might end? Have you ever wondered before that first panic attack that you might not be attracted to men? Being under stress can certainly make you less interested in "cuddling" so that's just one more reason to get support and help sorting through all these feelings.
Does your work offer an EAP, or would you like any help finding counseling resources in your area?
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