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Just Said Yes July 2022

Worried My Fiancé Won’t Like My Dress

Stacy, on August 18, 2021 at 12:02 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 16
I made a folder of a bunch of different wedding dress styles and went through them with my fiancé to get an idea of what he would like to see me in. He said he wasn’t a fan of ballgowns(I am not either) and said not too much fabric to deal with, and something classy but also sexy, so I was looking at more fitted and a-line styles. He also said nothing too hippy, and that the lace reminds him of grandmas table cloth… well after trying on like 15 dresses in the certain styles I thought I would like, I left with exactly that! ended up leaving the boutique with a boho lace dress which was totally different from what I had been looking at. But it was the one that felt the best, I put the maybe dress back on and instantly went back to the boho one again. I cried, my whole party cried, it made me feel so beautiful and it just totally fit my vibe. But after purchasing the dress and walking out of the store I instantly felt some regret, like what did I just do?! I suck at making big decisions and Always second guess myself. We are doing a small private ceremony on a lake in the mountains next summer. The dress I got is light, not too much weight which is great. A lot of the dresses I thought I wanted just didn’t do it for me like this one. The consultant brought out one last dress, just happened to bring out this random style totally different from what I was trying on and I loved it. But I’m scared my fiancé isn’t going to love it. I have had such high anxiety thinking about it and can’t stop thinking about it. I feel like my heart says yes but my head says no because it’s just completely different from what I had imagined. It’s driving me crazy! Anyone else having this feeling?Worried My Fiancé Won’t Like My Dress 1

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Latest activity by Amber, on September 2, 2021 at 1:42 PM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    First of all, the dress is gorgeous and you look amazing in it. And honestly, your FH's ideas of what dresses he likes/dislikes will go out the window as soon as he sees you in that dress. What something looks like in a photograph is never what translated perfectly to what it looks like, in person, on you. He will think you're gorgeous.
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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
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    Girl that dress looks AMAZING on you!!! He really will not care about it because he's going to be paying attention to how good you look. You feeling good in it and loving it is the most important thing.

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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
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    Its a gorgeous dress, I agree with previous posters - all of what he thought will go out the window once he sees you!

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    Dedicated August 2021
    Gianna ·
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    Echoing the above - that dress is beautiful and looks amazing on you! Once he sees it on you, he’ll love it - everything looks different on the actual bride wearing it versus the models in photographs
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    Super July 2023
    Eniale ·
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    There is a big difference between "I don't like what lace usually likes like" and "I don't like lace on you."

    He also isn't thinking about the emotions of the day.

    I don't think any man finds 98% of wedding dresses "sexy" or considers them something they would like to see their wife in regularly. But they love them when they see them on their bride that day.

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  • Rosie
    Master February 2022
    Rosie ·
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    I agree with the others, your husband is going to love it because you chose it, it's very 'you' and you're who he loves! It's a stunning dress. Add to that, I know a lot of men say they hate lace and think it looks table-cloth-y or old lady-ish, but nothing about that lace is any of those things. I would say it's very modern and pretty.

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  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    Wow! This dress looks incredible on you, and I can definitely see why you chose it! Most men refer to lace as “grandma’s table cloth” because for most of their lives, that was one of the few things they saw with lace. I think he is going to love it!
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  • Katie
    Dedicated May 2023
    Katie ·
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    Your dress looks beautiful on you, I can see why everyone was crying! I agree with other posters that men will feel apathetic or not like something they see on someone else, but when the woman they love is wearing it, it takes on a whole different context. The only thing I think men may genuinely care about in terms of wedding dress is if there's so much fabric around you that it's difficult for them to get close to you, so I could see the preference for not-a-ball-gown being a legitimate thing. His face will light up when he sees you in it!

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    Savvy May 2022
    Celine ·
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    Everyone already said this but I’m saying it again because it’s true. You look AMAZING in that dress! It’s beautiful. And I think sometimes men don’t really know what they like when it comes to women’s fashion - especially wedding gowns. My fiancé didn’t even know there were different types of lace. Trust me, your FH is going to love you in that dress!
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    Beginner October 2022
    Harts ·
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    Who cares what he thinks of the dress? When you're all made up and he sees the full picture, he's going to think that you look gorgeous!

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  • Laura
    Super September 2026
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    My better half told me to ignore all his opinions because no magazine or model is going to look like you in the same dress. He admitted he had preferences but they are based on what he thinks the dress would look like - which may not be what it looks like at all. He advised me that I should look for a dress that makes me feel amazing - and then consider his dreams met. He also said he'd have no recollection if I chose a dress he said he'd like or not like because me in the dress would make it look different. I suggest you take his advice to heart. You cried, you look amazing and happy... that's the good place.
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  • Alisha
    VIP April 2021
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    Your dress is beautiful. I went through similar with my husband and this how it went. We were watching say yes to the dress and I asked him if he liked the dresses on them and he said he didn’t like the bottom of the dress bc it had ruffles. So I ok well he’s definitely not going to like my dress bc he had ruffles. Well to make this a little shorter I loved my dress and low and behold he loved me and he loved the dress I was in. Later we had a discussion about it and he said he saw me and how beautiful I was and that I made the dress. All of this to say is to go with the dress that you fell in love with and love bc he will you for you and you in that dress.
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  • Ellen
    Devoted October 2021
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    I was worried about this too. I asked him what he thought I would wear. Complete opposite of what I bought! I said that is nothing like what I picked. He said it doesn’t matter! He said he’s going to cry and be so happy that he’s marrying his love and I will look beautiful. Stopped worrying after that. Lol.
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  • Ellen
    Devoted October 2021
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    PS you look drop dead gorgeous and he will be amazed and happy seeing you in that gown!
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  • Janae
    Devoted September 2021
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    Ok... thank you for posting pix!! That dress is AMAZING. I had a hard time making my decision as well... it's just SUCH. A. BIG. DEAL. But everyone here is right, quit doubting yourself. Your FH does not know what kind of dress he likes... he knows he LOVES you!! This dress will make him so happy because you are his bride Smiley smile

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  • Amber
    Dedicated September 2021
    Amber ·
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    I think your dress is stunning and so unique! I love all the detail! I felt the same way about my dress after I purchased it. I had tried it in 3 different times to compare it and every time, I loved it more. A week later I started regretting it again. It wasn’t what I pictured myself in at all!
    I took it to alterations and tried it on again and all of the happy feelings started flooding back to me. I honestly feel like we don’t pick our dress but it picks us! Lol
    I’m sure once your fiancé sees you in that dress, the last thing that will be on his mind is grandma’s tablecloth 😉
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