Worried about my fiance's groomsmen

If you are so worried, then I would have your fiancé confirm. Where our guys got their tuxes (Men's Warehouse) we were notified they received their tux. My husband didn't have to worry about making sure the tuxes were rented. Worst case if they don't have their attire then they can attend as a guest. At that point it is their own fault. If someone has to back out for some reason that would be very unfortunate, but these things happen. When my husband's friend got married his brother backed out the day of the wedding because he got food poisoning and couldn't keep anything down. There was no way he was going to be able to attend.

Your wedding is still 9 months away. They have plenty of time to get their suits. Let your fiance handle his guys. And if they don't get it, then they'll just be a guest. I definitely get the stress, but if you accept that you cang control other people, I promise your stress level will drop significantly.

My fiancé and his groomsmen got their tuxes 2 ordered months before the wedding. I understand your stress, I hated that they did it so close to the wedding but honestly it all worked out. Let your fiancé handle it and just remember that it’s pretty easy for groomsmen to get their outfits closer to the wedding day as long as you’re not getting super specific/hard to find outfits.

View Quoted Comment The problem is my fiance is the one texting and they are not responding to him.

View Quoted Comment I do understand that my wedding is 8 months out. I don't need them getting their suits for 6 or 7 months. However if they can't even respond to my fiances simple text confirming. That doesn't give me much hope.

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Well there is still plenty of time. Your wedding is nine months away. They don't need to go get their suits for a while. Once it is closer and if still haven't then your fiancé needs to call rather than text them. It isn't your job to micromanage his people.

View Quoted Comment I'm fine as long as they get it by early August. But them not texting him back and communicating with him is my issue.

No one ever cares about your wedding as much as you do (sadly ☹) and your wedding will not necessarily be at the top of your bridal/groom’s parties’ agendas. You have plenty of time before the wedding and your groomsmen not responding to FH’s texts, at least, not this far out from the wedding, doesn’t indicate that they don’t want to (or won’t) be part of the groom’s party on the day.

I am someone who is very proactive with these things and I am always the type to acknowledge a message, but, not everyone is like that, and it sounds like your groomsmen fall into the latter category. If there are serious concerns that they don’t want to be involved, then FH should have a chat to them. Otherwise, don’t fret about it too much 😊

I wouldn't worry until 2 to 3 months out.

I felt your pain! 😂 my husband’s groomsmen wait till 6 weeks before our wedding to get their tuxes and it drove me nuts!! I reached out to their wives just to tell them our covid precautions and if the ladies had any questions to feel free to reach out directly to me. The girls were like “I’ve been telling him to get his tux too and will make sure he does” lol give yourself a deadline like July 15th (that’s what I did) 😉

Girl- my fiancé still hasn’t decided on WHO (except for 1) his groomsmen are going to be much less asked them to be in our wedding & our wedding is in 81 DAYS!!!

Girl, one of our groomsmen had to be pestered SO many times. We sent them the link for the ties (the cheapest thing) in September and said do it early because Azazie could be coming from overseas. Tracking indicates he will receive it THE DAY BEFORE. Men... 🙄

You are preaching to the choir! My fiancé’s groomsmen have not been the best at responding either. I think I’m fiancé still hasn’t gotten a response from one of them when he sent a Happy Birthday text...smh. So you are not alone. I would definitely recommend when the time comes for tuxedos go to men’s wearhouse. They email me updates when someone has been measured. They also email me and say groomsmen x has not been measured would you like to resend an invite and I say to myself “yes, yes I would.” With a small click two seconds they get a reminder and it looks like it’s just coming from the system and not a type A, anxious Covid bride.