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Just Said Yes August 2021

Worried about my date (August 2021)

Nancy, on August 5, 2020 at 11:19 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 15
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I know I have an entire year before our big day , but as any bride would be I’m super anxious ! And excited . But also freaking out due to the pandemic . Can I get y’all’s thoughts on when you think everything will be back to normal and okay? I have a guest list of 300. And Im happy I’m able to have my big wedding IV always dreamed of , but worried this pandemic will ruin that . Should I be worried or will I be in the clear next year?

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on August 6, 2020 at 1:48 PM
  • Anna
    Super October 2020
    Anna ·
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    I think there are plenty of other things to worry about than what the world will look like next year right now. Especially since there's nothing we can do to control the opening of everything and relaxing of restrictions. Breathe and just keep planning as you normally would. Don't let COVID stress you out.

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  • Natalie
    Devoted November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    Truthfully, no one really knows when things will return to “normal,” but with your wedding a year away, I wouldn’t panic quite yet. When booking vendors, find out how they are handling events and make sure to thoroughly read all contracts before signing. As 2020 has taught us all, we certainly not predict what the future holds!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    We postponed from 10/10/20 to 10/30/21. I don’t know when “normalcy” will return. But I’m hoping that life is at least better managed by then.
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  • Annajoy
    Expert August 2020
    Annajoy ·
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    Girl it is FAR too early to be worrying about this. There is literally no way to accurately predict what will happen a year from now, and worrying about it for a full year will only drive you insane. If you need to continue planning, then incorporate a safely net (ask vendors what their cancellation/postponement policy is, and book vendors who are flexible).
    If you can, put wedding planning on the back burner for the time being and focus on other aspects of your life.

    I spent way too many days in a complete emotional frenzy when I should have simply been focusing on what was right in front of me instead of trying to predict the future.
    As the months go by, we’ll all have a better understanding of where the world is going. Just sit back and enjoy the ride for the time being.
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  • Nancy
    Just Said Yes August 2021
    Nancy ·
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    I know , I’m crazy and over think so much all the time but your right I just gotta chill out and wait and see . Thank you
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  • Annajoy
    Expert August 2020
    Annajoy ·
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    It’s so hard not to overthink it, but it will literally tear you apart. It’s a conscious exercise in self-discipline and controlling where you let your thoughts roam. It’s not easy and I for one certainly suck at it
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  • Stacey
    Devoted May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    Literally no one knows. Heck, I can’t even tell you what next month is going to look like. You should be planning a contingency plan in tandem with planning your dream wedding just in case. If you worry about it every day for the next year, it’s not going to be a very enjoyable experience. It sucks, I get it. But focus on what you can control.
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  • Amanda
    Dedicated October 2020
    Amanda ·
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    I wouldn’t worry too much. I am doing a wedding cake for a bride who is expecting 300 guest THIS
    November. My advice as a 2020 bride, have a plan B & C and openly discuss the possibility of COVID affecting your wedding with your vendors. We’ve had to make small changes but I’ve kept planning as normal. I’ve had breakdowns but I keep reminding myself; my bridal party, family, and most importantly my future husband will be there no matter what. If our venue cancels on us, we will have a tent wedding at my in laws property.
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  • Margaret
    Rockstar October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    No one can predict the future, but in my own personal opinion, I really don't think you have anything to worry about yet. Don't send your STDs until just after the holidays and even then, don't send them to everyone, just those that are the most important and immediate. Listen and watch the news. If nothing else, there will be better guidelines on how to handle this virus after the new year.

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  • Katie
    Expert August 2021
    Katie ·
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    I wouldn't panic yet. You got a year, a lot can change in a year. I have a year as well and I try to think positive about it this early out.
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  • Marisa
    Rockstar May 2021
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    I suggest thinking of backup plans and worse case scenarios. You want to be mentally prepared too by accepting how things could be if it does “get ruined.”

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  • J
    Expert May 2021
    Jaime ·
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    You can't predict the future, but I understand your concern! I postponed from July to next May so I totally get it. I'm not worrying yet, but I am aware that my new wedding date may need to be adjusted to fit with whatever is happening at the time. We aren't starting out with a lot of guests (probably 80-100) so it isn't huge, but I am considering drawing up a reduced guest list in the event we need to downsize. My thought is that over the next year the wedding industry is going to figure out a lot about how to host weddings that are safer and that there will be advances in treating COVID plus the hope of a vaccine. I'm hoping all that together will help out 2021 brides, but it definitely is not a bad idea to just be ready to pivot if you need to.

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  • Laura
    Dedicated July 2020
    Laura ·
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    When everything started shutting down in March, I was told not to worry about it. "Everything will be fine by the end of July..." "The virus will go away when the weather warms up." "They can't ban big social gatherings for 5 months." Well, obviously all of that was wrong. I had to adapt to the changes, but everything was still beautiful.


    Since you have a full year, you should be fine. But have a backup in place. Know what you're going to do IF you can't have your initial wedding vision. That was the toughest part for me: imagining my venue, guests, flowers, pictures... and then having to reimagine my day with a new venue, limited guests, etc.
    You shouldn't worry about it so that it keeps you up at night. However, you have the luxury (as weird as that sounds) of knowing you MAY need a backup. When I started planning last June, I had no idea everything would fall apart like this, so I had no wedding venue at the end of May and nothing to fall back on. Basically hope for the best, but plan for the worst. I truly hope everything works out for you!!! ❤
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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
    Monica ·
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    If it makes you feel better, we postponed our big wedding to August 2021 (a year from today actually). I wish I had a crystal ball but I truly do think it will be better by then. Hopefully there's a vaccine but if not at least we will hopefully have better protocols in place to limit the spread. I know it's hard but try not to worry about it yet!
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  • Stephanie
    Savvy July 2021
    Stephanie ·
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    I know everyone on here is just saying "Girl don't worry!" but as someone with anxiety who is getting married in a year as well, I get it, you can't help but worry. I don't want to sound like a broken record and repeat everyone saying "Just relax." but I say continue planning, enjoy the planning as much as you can, and hope for the best. I think it's okay to have a "Plan B" as a just in case, even a "Plan C". But it's okay to worry and be stressed too.

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