So my MOH has been dealing with some personal stuff lately, and although she hasn't had divulged much to me, I've been giving her her space and checking in with her once or twice a week to make sure she's doing okay. I haven't addressed too many wedding-related things lately because I don't her to feel more overwhelmed.
She says she's been planning the bachelorette party for months with one of the other bridesmaids, but we're four weeks out from it and no decisions have been made. I have girls messaging me daily because they've already reached out to her, and she won't respond to anyone. And it's not the first time something like that has happened.
One of my other bridesmaids ("Sarah") has repeatedly told the MOH she can help over the past year. She started doing a bit of party planning on her own when she wasn't sure what was going on with the MOH. Sarah lives halfway across the country and decided to book hotel rooms since prices were going up, but that's the only major thing she's done.
Yesterday, Sarah asked my MOH if she needed any help booking anything, saying it'd probably be good to go ahead and do it now. Last night, I got an unhappy sounding text from the MOH saying if Sarah and I wanted to keep planning the bachelorette party, then we could just take it from here. I explained to her that Sarah was only trying to help and asked her if she wanted to talk about anything. She said "I'm good, thanks" and later told me that she didn't care what the plan was -- to let her know and she'll "show up." I asked her if she wanted to talk about anything and she never responded.
It's clear that she doesn't want to talk right now, and I know she's taking it personally. My stance is that someone needs to make a decision, and I am unable to plan something with everything else I have going on right now - including an infant at home and a mom with a lot of health issues.
I'm going to give her some space and try to talk to her again but now I'm wondering if there's anything else she's going to bow out of between now and the wedding. Should I be prepared to have other people help, step in, etc.? I don't want to lose her as a friend but if she won't talk to me or keeps being passive aggressive, it's going to be real awkward in the near future.
Has anyone else dealt with anything like this? Advice/thoughts? TIA!!
