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Savvy October 2020

Worried about added guests

Lisa, on January 5, 2020 at 10:36 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 11

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We asked my FMIL if she was going to bring her "boyfriend" to the wedding when we were planning. She said oh no, he's married. Well, now that invitations are going out, she wants to include him! I am a bit upset. I know it is only one, but I am afraid this will happen a lot!

She isn't contributing to the wedding at all or even offered and I don't think she knows the cost. In footing most of the bill, and all of the venue and dinner. I know if my folks were alive they would.
How do I deal with this with the potential of this happening more? I don't like being a scrooge, but I don't want to be taken advantage of either.Thanks!

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Latest activity by Catherine, on January 6, 2020 at 1:54 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 5, 2020 at 10:42 PM
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“I’m sorry, we’ve maxed out our guest list.”
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on January 5, 2020 at 10:45 PM
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Just day that we don't have the budget for additional guests. If she wants more then she can pay. Sorry about that situation.
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Savvy October 2020
Lisa · on January 5, 2020 at 10:48 PM
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Thanks ladies. It's $75 a pop, and I'm getting nervous. On the RSVPs, I had it mention a number reserved in their honor. I'm sure many won't follow it.
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Alycia · on January 5, 2020 at 10:59 PM
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I just sent out mine and I'm ready for the same fights. Stay strong
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Savvy October 2020
Lisa · on January 5, 2020 at 11:08 PM
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Thanks for the advice! Good luck to you!
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Cyndy · on January 5, 2020 at 11:08 PM
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If people RSVP for more than were invited you need to go back and tell them “I’m glad to see you are able to attend but we have limited seating and your invite was for x people”. People shouldn’t be so rude but you might have to tell them
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Savvy October 2020
Lisa · on January 5, 2020 at 11:09 PM
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Exactly! I know it will happen.
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Super October 2020
Leslie · on January 6, 2020 at 12:27 AM
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And then there’s always the no shows - especially ones who want to bring extras.
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Catherine · on January 6, 2020 at 10:17 AM
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If you can swing her plus one "boyfriend" then i would do so. BUT i would make it VERY clear that she won't be adding any extra last minute guests unless she wants to fork over the cash to pay or their attendance.
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Savvy October 2020
Lisa · on January 6, 2020 at 1:23 PM
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Thank you! We will allow this, but no more and no others. I agree! Don't want to step on the wrong foot!
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