Working with my mom

Stop sharing the details with her. If she asks why, tell her how you feel. Like you were excited to show her everything but when she gave a negative opinion about it, it would hurt your feelings and it was discouraging you. Or if that's too confrontational (that would be hard for me to say), you could also tell her that you want it to be a surprise

Did you and your mom discuss at all what your vision would be when you started planning? I had a similar situation happen with my mom where she didn't like the ideas I had. The biggest part is that I did not do a good job of explaining what my vision was. Yes, she also had her own ideas based on experiences and suggestions as well that I didn't necessarily agree with.

I think you need to sit down and just talk with your mom about what you want, what your ideas are and how she can help. If she still doesn't want to be supportive with knowing what your vision is then by all means as PP have said - limit the details you share.

My mom can be like that too but my mom is my best friend and I can't not share things with her. She's my person. So, I always challenge her: "Why?" Give me a REASON or REASONS why you don't like it because your "no" may be a validated reason. For instance, "I don't like that hair style because it doesn't fit your face or will take away from the style of your dress." Now, I don't have to accept that "NO" and that "reason" but at least I know it's not baseless and it allows me to be constructive with any decision I make. However, my mom used to get pissed off when I did that so, I explained my reasoning to her. If she doesn't let up - stop sharing. I know that might suck but sometimes we have to make unlikely decisions to protect our peace.

My FH and I are getting married in 26 days, and I can honestly say that my mom has been very similar to yours, the one thing we finally did was we stood up about what we want, it took me a couple of things (Venue, cake, timeline) for me to realize that this was MY wedding not hers. It was difficult to stand up to her, and I only include her in our decisions because she's paying for everything, including what the groom's parents typically pay for. Just be your self and tell your mom that you're not looking for an opinion you're looking for someone to share your decisions with. Good Luck!

Brandi, I agree. My mom is like my best friend also so I of course want to include her everything. But I love your idea. Thank you!

Madisen, my mom is only paying for my dress. I just want to include her because I am her only daughter and my brother didn’t really include her in his wedding. I always thought it would be something I would share with her. Thank you!

Thank you everyone for your input, I appreciate it!

Shelby sounds like you are looking for mommy's validation but you are two different people so you wont have the exact taste. Wedding planning is amazing to share with your mom but you need to expect she isn't going to like everything you like so I would say that maybe you should accept that and just stick to your vision of what represents you and FH.