Work friends and plus ones?

Anyone who is in a relationship needs to have that person invited by name. They are not a "plus one" and definitely require an invite.

Significant others need to be invited, but you don't need to invite your co workers kids, IMO.

I was pretty sure that was the case. Of course FH is pretty oblivious and probably doesn't even know who is or isn't in a relationship... A worry for another day. Thanks all.

Significant others do need to be invited, even for coworkers. One way to cut the guest list is to only invite coworkers that you see socially outside of work

A good guideline is to only include those with whom you have a social relationship outside work, and that doesn't include going for a beer after work on Friday.

By that account, they're all nixed because we have no social life, lol. However, I appreciate the advice. I'll have to talk with FH to see how important he feels it is to have them invited.

You don't have to invite ALL of your coworkers (but definitely don't just leave out one, obviously). And if your FH invites his, you don't have to invite yours. But either way, you have to invite their significant others. Why not cut the number you invite in half so you can accommodate them accordingly?

I would not say anything to anyone yet. And I doubt the coworker expects an invite, just because his family owns the place. To me, if you are not close enough to someone that you do not know if they have a SO, I am not certain you should invite either of them.

You guys do not have to invite all of your coworkers. However, if they are married or in a relationship then they get a plus one. We ran into this problem and opted to only invite coworkers we associate with outside of work.

Yes, you need to include all significant others but you definitely don't need to invite their kids. That's pretty crazy IMO. Kids are not all or nothing. So, even if you invite family kids it doesn't mean you have to invite everyone's kids.

Also, if you decide to put all of these coworkers on your guest list, I wouldn't send them save the dates. That locks you into inviting them WAY too early and things will likely change closer to your wedding (some of them will leave the job, your budget may change, etc.). Wait until invitations go out to invite them.

Inviting the boss may be seen as a nice gesture by you, but interpreted as a gift grab by the boss.

Do you invite him to other social occasions in your home? dinner parties? BBQ's etc.

Not sending save the dates is a really good point. As they're all local, they won't need as much notice. Thanks!

@muriel my FH works at a very small, family owned company. Less than 25 employees. I work for a HUGE company and would not invite my boss.

I invited all of my coworkers and significant others but I drew the line at their kids. The problem I am facing is new people being hired. Ugg

Ok, I can't imagine not inviting my coworkers. Let's just say we're close. They make me crazy but I spend more time with them than I do with my family. FH works with like 3 people and he works mostly by himself, also my coworkers love my FH. They will all be extended guests, however I do not think most of them will bring one because they're single.

I work as a float, so I don't really spend a lot of time with the same people, day in and day out. It's a unique situation. I'd like to invite just a couple people but feel bad excluding "some"... Just personally, I'll either do all or none.