Work colleagues: Who should I invite?

I'm personally inviting only my closest coworkers. My wedding is four hours away from where I live and work anyway, so that makes it much easier.

I'm not inviting any coworkers. Rule of thumb is to invite people you spend time with outside of the office.

Unless you spend time with them socially, don't invite them.

I am only inviting the ones who I hang out with outside of work. And even some of them aren't getting an invite.

We chose not to invite any coworkers. It was a hard decision because we are close with some of them and even hang out outside of work, but it's impossible to pick and choose when you're talking executives. It's been way easier to say "family only and our oldest friends"

I'm only inviting people from work who I hang out with outside of work or go to lunch with regularly. Seems like you may be in a different position though.

I'm struggling with this, too. I know the conventional wisdom is to only invite people you hang out with outside of work, but the sales office where I work is a very tight-knit team and people would absolutely be hurt if they weren't invited. So there is no question that my immediate team members will be invited. But then where does it stop? I have at-work friends in other departments that I would like to have there, but it gets murky when you are picking and choosing some and not others. Ugg.

Sorry, I know that wasn't helpful. At least we are in a similar boat.

IMO, if you have to ask, then you shouldn't invite any of them.

My entire office is invited but including SOs that's a total of 8 people. It's a very small law firm and I actively want all of them there. We regularly do things outside of work as a firm. My wedding is about an hour north of where most of them live in a mountain resort community and my boss actually just booked a vacation home there for the weekend of my wedding and told everyone that he had their hotel covered. They're also talking about having an office mini bachelorette party or something for me.

If your situation doesn't match mine- which it clearly doesn't- there is no need to invite people unless you actively want them there.

Jen, that sounds great. Lucky you! Glad to see I'm not alone with this. But I like the advice "If you have to ask...". I will invite those it wouldn't feel weird to invite: my true pals, and not worry about diplomacy. Thanks, everyone!

I'm also struggling with this. I work in a very small office (6) and three of the people are my close friends ( one is a former boss) so it's a no brainer to invite them. There is also an admin person who is very nice and she keeps asking about the wedding details. Then there is a newbie who is friends with the other 3 (all guys) but not friends with me. I don't socialize outside of work like all the guys do. I'm trying to invite my 3 friends and the admin lady (out of feeling guilty) and not invite the new guy. It's a DW 9 hours away and my 3 friends have already said they were coming. Ugh

If you don't see them outside of work, I wouldn't invite them.

If you don't socialize with them outside of work, do not invite them. While you might feel that it would be insulting to not invite them, on their end they might feel awkward about receiving an invite. I work in a corporate environment and struggled with this as I work in the Chairman's office of a large company. My FH's advice: don't invite anyone that has the ability to fire you. lol

We didn't invite any coworker's. I don't think coworker's should be invited unless you are actually friends with them outside of work.

Thanks, everyone! I feel much better about this with your feedback.

Inviting coworkers can be a little awkward. FH isn't inviting any of his but I'm only inviting the ones I see outside of work.

Some people say that it's polite to invite your boss, but I don't know that I'm going to do that. I want to invite my bosses from my last job, because they made a major impact on my career. My current boss? Well... she's just my boss. The relationship should be meaningful when it comes to coworkers.

I am inviting a few former coworkers that i still socialize with. I am not inviting anyone from my current office (I have worked her for 8 months, and got engaged one month ago). I don't socialize with any of these coworkers and don't feel an emotional connection with any of them.

I DO however feel very relieved to be inviting the formers now that I don't go to that office anymore, as I know there would be some people there who were more fringe-level friends that I would not have wanted to invite that would likely have felt insulted if they found out I didn't invite them but did invite others. I'm so glad i don't have anyone on my guest list that I "had to invite because i invited so-and-so.." this day is supposed to be a big party for US and we only want people there that are special and important to us