I know i'm going to sound ungrateful and that this is a taboo thought and comment to make but I've legitimately never seen or heard of people doing this before and i'm not sure how to handle it.
A coworker of mine offered to host a bridal shower for me, which was extremely nice of her to do and i'm truly grateful she went thru all of that trouble. She told me that 12 other coworkers responded that they were going to come. The Shower was being held at another venue after work mid week. The day of the event, most of them cancelled saying they couldn't make it. This posed an issue for the hostess since there was a minimum needed at the venue. Four people showed up, leaving the hostess to pay extra money because she didn't meet the minimum. I felt horrible, but then i realized that only one of the four actually purchased a gift. I've checked my registry six days later thinking maybe there were gift cards waiting for me and nothing has been purchased...no gift cards, no gifts, not even a bridal shower card sitting on my desk after the fact.
I honestly find this entire scenario hurtful and honestly really rude because most of my coworkers cancelled hours before the Shower and then the people who did show up didn't even purchase anything.
How do I handle this? The people who came didn't spend a dollar and ate free food and they also didn't help plan the Shower as far as I know. I don't even know how to word a Thank You card because what do I even thank them for?
