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Wording rsvp for “behaving” kids

Victoria R, on March 23, 2019 at 7:07 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 18

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I’m trying to figure out how to word my RSVPs so that I can find out how many guest are attending (some of them I know will be kids), but I need to word it in a way that we only want good behaving kids (because we don’t need the venu tore up or anything or else we won’t get that certain clean up/ nothing broke fee back.
Any ideas how to kindly invite good & behaved kids to the wedding?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on March 25, 2019 at 4:08 PM

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Summerbride77 · on March 23, 2019 at 7:14 PM
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There really isn't a way to say this without coming off as a very rude. Most parents would likely consider their kid a ”good” kid anyway. You either invite children or you don't. If you really worried about it consider an adult only-reception.
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Alicia · on March 23, 2019 at 7:18 PM
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I second this.
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Victoria R · on March 23, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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Well the ones who I know are gonna have their kids (siblings to the flower girl and ring bearer). Would it just be safe to not mention kids at all and if I know the adults I’m inviting have kids ask them independently if they planned to bring them?
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Theresa · on March 23, 2019 at 7:45 PM
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Agree with PPs. "Good behaving" is entirely subjective, and I've never met a parent who didn't think their child was well behaved. (even if no one else did)
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Victoria R · on March 23, 2019 at 7:46 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. My fiancé and I thought the same thing so we didn’t know what to do
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Theresa · on March 23, 2019 at 7:52 PM
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How many kids are you expecting, and are there any you know will cause problems?
Maybe consider doing as Summerbride77 suggested, and don't invite children other than the ones in the bridal party.
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Victoria R · on March 23, 2019 at 7:58 PM
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Specifically we can think of about 10, most are my fiancé’s and my niece and nephews and also my flower girl and her brother. So I know the main kids that would be there
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Victoria R · on March 23, 2019 at 8:00 PM
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I’m thinking what may be the best option like y’all are saying is to not mention anything about kids of my invitations. Then it’s not hinted or implied that kids are invited to prevent to many form coming
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Heather · on March 23, 2019 at 8:11 PM
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Honestly the kids you would be worried about the parents already think their children are angels which is why they act that way
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Theresa · on March 23, 2019 at 8:14 PM
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You could also specifically number the amount of people invited on the RSVP... "we have reserved ___ in your honor." Then write in 2. Address the envelope to Mr. and Mrs. Such and Such. This could discourage people from including children.
Keep in mind, sometimes people write them in anyway!
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Colleen · on March 23, 2019 at 9:16 PM
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Do you have a idia if how the kids behave. We are having kids they are all behaved but one. And his issue is not tearing things up.
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Victoria R · on March 23, 2019 at 9:25 PM
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This is what I have so far, I like the idea of “reserved ___ sears in your honor “ though
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· on March 23, 2019 at 11:47 PM
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Ummm that is not going to work. I
The event is either kid friendly or not. Most people may not realize or are naive to their children's bad behavior. There is no polite or proper way to word that so it is kids or none. Sorry
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· on March 23, 2019 at 11:48 PM
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Yes I agree with this 100 %
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Angerra · on March 25, 2019 at 7:58 AM
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Totally agree!
We're only having 6 children and I know each and every one of them. If I knew they had poor behavior, they wouldn't be invited at all.
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Jolie · on March 25, 2019 at 10:41 AM
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I am trying to keep track here. So the kids that you know are all the ones that are family and they are invited right? So you are asking about other people like friends who have kids, you are not too sure if they should bring them? I would just keep it to family children and no other outside kids invited. That is what we are doing. Or are you saying there are kids within the family who are misbehaved?
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Future Mrs. K · on March 25, 2019 at 10:52 AM
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Everyone thinks their kid is a "good" kid. I feel like there's really no way to do this. You either allow kids, knowing kids will be kids, or don't allow any kids if you don't want to worry about any of them behaving badly.
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MrsD · on March 25, 2019 at 4:08 PM
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You can't word it like that haha you invite kids or you don't. If you do, you pray they are well behaved I guess.
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