Wording of invitations - who's hosting?

No, that’s not rude.

I think the way you want to do it honors everyone the most.

We had a very similar situation. Ultimately we ended up with “together with their parents” because both sets of parents contributed, as did FH and I.

My mom was super unhappy about our decision to do this (they are contributing *significantly* more than FILs), but FH and I didn’t want to exclude his parents. I can see where your parents are coming from, but unless they are paying for 100% of the wedding, this is not their choice to make.

I don't think that is rude. My parents were the same way about wanting their names on the wedding invitations as well. Both families had contributed to the costs in various ways along with the money that my FH and I had saved up for the wedding so we put...

"Mr. & Mrs. Smith and Mr. & Mrs. Jones invite you to the wedding of..." Both families were just as happy with it. (I didn't include children in the quote above like some of the traditional wording does for my invitations)

Since members of your fiancé's family have contributed as well, I personally think it would be insensitive to only name your parents and not those who contributed from your fiancé's family. We are paying for the majority of our wedding, but my fiancé's mother and stepfather and his father have contributed, as well and my mother and two grandmothers. My father has not contributed. I didn't feel comfortable listing people by name, as there are multiple contributors and I thought it in poor taste to exclude my father's name. So this is what our invitations say: "The families of the couple request the honor of your presence at the marriage of (bride's name) and (groom's name)."

I dont think it's rude. I'm paying for the wedding myself so my parents names aren't on the invite at all.

But, if they were expecting their names to be on the invite, I would try to bring it up and talk to them about it so they wont be disappointed or surprised when the invite comes in and they dont see their names.

In my culture, the groom hosts and pays for everything, but for my fiance's culture, the bride hosts, but we're working together

We're paying for the wedding ourselves with the exception of FH's parents are in charge of the rehearsal dinner and alcohol at our wedding, and my parents contributed $5,000 but I think I'm going to return the money and let them know it was way too generous, but I'd be willing to accept for them to help with the DJ cost (about $500). We just put our names on there and wrote "You are invited to..." but didn't write anything about it being a wedding, because some people get touchy about whether it's a wedding or vow renewal and I refuse to call it a vow renewal.

If you want to honor your parents, I think "together with their parents" is nice!

My parents, my FH's mom and us are all paying for the wedding. I used the traditional way of my parents names, then FH's name would like to invite you to celebrate the marriage of their children x and x.

We are putting “Mr. & Mrs. ___ along with Mr. & Mrs. ____ request your presence blah blah blah ... my parents are contributing a lot more but his parents gave us some money too. We liked the formality and it made it more personal.

View Quoted Comment We’re in the same situation with the amounts each set of parents contributed and we’re wording ours the same way!

My fiance and I are paying for about 50% of the wedding, with my parents covering the other 50%. Originally my fiance's parents offered to help us financially with the wedding, but they have not given us any money to date and the wedding is only a few months away. I eventually just settled on "Mr. and Mrs. Jane Doe request..." and put my parents name as I knew it would mean a lot to them.

We are doing “together with their families” even though they aren’t contributing, because we liked the way it sounded better than other wording