Wording for gift registry

Do your family and friends know there is a possibility that you will relocate to Canada? Or is that a secret?

Do people in your circle commonly use Honeyfunds or HM registries?

It's all relative to your circle, but if it were me - I would just not register. If people ask about what you'd like, tell them you have everything you need, you're just saving up for a HM/new home/future travels/etc. People will get the hint.

In my circle and for most people I know, it's considered really bad form to ask for money. Most people know money is a welcome gift. Some people won't give it even if you ask for it. So asking for it is kind of unnecessary IMO.

Actually it is not a secret that there is a possibility of relocation. I have heard people use the wording "no boxed gifts", but I am not sure that sounds nice.

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No suggestions??

I am a huge fan of honeymoon registries, so I would consider that if you're interested...let me know if you want to know more!

Since it's not a secret, people will know your situation and understand. You can use word of mouth...tell your bridal party and parents your wishes and when people ask them about gifts/registries they can explain. But it shouldn't come from you! I agree with @Kris that it's bad form to request cash or even put it on your website.

Don't register for gifts like @Kris said...most people will get the hint.

If you want, you could have a registry page on your website...if you do the honeymoon registry, it can say, "We are so excited to share in our special day with all of you. Due to the possibility of relocation after we're married and the wonderful uncertainty of the future, we have not registered for gifts. We would however like to have a wonderful once-in-a-lifetime honeymoon. If you do feel compelled to give a gift, (cont)

(cont) we would be very appreciative of you helping us make this the honeymoon of our dreams." Or something like that?

If you're not doing a honeymoon registry, then maybe something like this?: "We are so excited to share in our special day with all of you. Due to the possibility of relocation after we're married and the wonderful uncertainty of the future, we have not registered for any gifts. If you do feel compelled to give a gift, we very much appreciate you making our travels light."

I know someone else will probably be able to word that better...but it's close to what I'm trying to say.

Thanks!

We are not doing honeymoon funds.

I hope I get more suggestions on the wording you suggested..

Here's a cute poem I found:

"If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.

A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.

However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way."

It does help if you can specify what you'll spend the money on...most people are weary of just writing a check not knowing where it will go...if you can specify honeymoon, house, whatever...that helps ease people's minds about giving you cash.

Here's the website I got that poem from...it's got lots of good stuff!

http://www.wedaholic.com/archives/the_etiquette_of_asking_for_cash_wedding_gifts.php

I like this too:

"In lieu of gifts the bride and groom request well wishes or a donation to their 'new home in Canada fund' as they would hate to leave carefully chosen gifts behind."

It calls out the fact that you appreciate the time and thoughts put into getting a wedding gift and you wouldn't want to leave them behind. The issue with this is that you don't know for sure if you're moving...

@Katie, Thank you for the link. We are struggling with this as well. We have combined 2 households and really do not need anything else. Except the honeymoon :-)

I like Katie's wording if you feel the need to put something on the registry page. I agree, "no boxed gifts please" doesn't come off right. I still think people will figure it out on their own though, so I don't think you need to worry about it. If people want to know what you want, they'll ask you and you can say, "We didn't register b/c we might be moving, thanks for asking, we're really just saving up for xxx". I wouldn't stress.

Good luck! We moved just after getting engaged, it's a lot to do all at once!

Yeah i agree kris.

Now this is the problem we are having; For me in general I Hate to give Monetary gifts, I just really hate it--I feel happier when I give an item than monetary for some reason. So i am assuming there might be people out there like me. But the second problem is, if I put nothing and perhaps people like me exist, then they would go ahead and buy items and I fear that on that day I might receive several same items--20 toasters! LOl

By not registering, you do run that risk, but you can always return things...

The people who don't want to give you a monetary gift won't even if you request it...

Heres what i put on my site! You can put this as you prefence I also stated any gifts of love and consideration are aslo welcome, so people wouldnt feel pressed.

Our household thoughts are not brand new,

We have twice the things we need for two.

Since we have more than enough dishes and bedding,

We're having instead a wishing well wedding.

Any thoughtful gifts of endearment are also welcomed. Thank you for thinking of us on our wedding day!

Im a doing a registry for my bridal shower but monetary gift for the wedding

Use depositagift.com it will solve this whole thing for you. and they include wording suggestions. worked really well for us. very cute and easy to use site. the nice thing is that it works like a regular registry, so you can use it for the shower and the wedding. we just created one and it was used for everything.

Chelle That sure sounds so nice!!

I guess I would just hold off a bit on this registry till things are clearer on our relocation plans. Thanks ladies!

Yeah, 20 toasters would suck. Although I joked about how we had 3 toasters when I moved in with FH, and now we want a new toaster.

I've had a couple of friends get married and move overseas. Most people gave money if they gave a gift at all, but otherwise I think it was small sentimental stuff, like picture frames and christmas ornaments, that kind of thing. There's always one wacky aunt who gives unique, bulky, unreturnable boxed gifts like bowls made out of fishing reels, but that probably happens for people who register too, and I think that's probably the stuff people end up loving somehow anyway.

You could always make a teeny registry of portable physical stuff like high quality neutral sheets, towels, tablecloths, napkins, throw blankets, little gadgets like digital picture frames, luggage, that kind of thing. I think it's really up to you.

Yes Kris, thats what i was thinking--going with portable gifts.

Thanks!

@Katie thanks for that link! We're actually moving also and I just added that part of the poem to my wedding website. @Gee mine just said: We are so excited for you to join us and that would be a gift in itself. If you are considering giving us gifts we are asking for monetary/gift cards. We will be moving out of Florida shortly after the wedding so this can help us start our new life together. We would like gift cards from the following stores...

I was also going to suggest Depositagift.com - you can register for ANYTHING including just having a "move" fund or "new house" fund, or gift cards to specific stores. I was invited to a wedding where they had a mortgage fund and no one thought anything of it.

I do think that by simply not registering people know you are hoping for cash.