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STBMrsMartin
Dedicated October 2019

With a change of a dress....

STBMrsMartin, on July 26, 2019 at 2:09 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 8

So...I purchased a new dress yesterday!!!!!!!!!! A little back story...I was engaged 13 years ago, I had posted before about this dress and how I was afraid I'd not get in it. Long story short, my parents wanted me to wear it bc they bought it. I have fluctuated weight, I lost 130lbs, gained 60lbs, lost then gained....so now I'm 34 and of course your body doesn't bounce back to where it all came from originally...gained or lost. Anyway, since February, I have been killing myself to get in this dress...I thought was my dream. I lost 8 inches. I still had 3 inches to go for it to fit perfectly...I have 78 days to go, I was terrified that I just wouldn't do it. After an emotional fitting with my parents Wed night, and them telling me that I need to bump up my cardio, my dieting and get in the "d**n" dress I cried all night, tortured my fiancé and was miserable...after being up all night and having to go to work the next day feeling like a failure. I went in spoke to my director and said "Hey we are slow, can I please go take care of some personal things?" She happily said yes bc apparently she had been worried about me killing myself and stressing over getting in my dress. She said she had seen a huge difference and I had lost a ton and to feel good about my weight loss but do what I had to do. So I left...I drove straight to my closest David's Bridal, and I basically cried all over the check-in counter (that poor girl probably thought I was nuts). Luckily, I was the only one in the store...they fit me in dresses all day and I even called my MOH to come meet me since she was off.

I was able to find my dream dress, that was a smaller size, fit me better and made me feel like a beautiful bride. I called my FH and said I was spending the money and I wasn't telling anyone I was there but his sister, and I bought the dress. I am so happy I did, I am not going to give up on my goal, if I lose a few more I'll look even more fantastic...but I don't have to be miserable for 78 days worrying and making myself sick that I may not have a dress and have to go to JCPenney as my dad suggested the week before the wedding.

After that emotional rollercoaster, I had to meet my mom that day for my first hair trial. I ended up breaking down and telling her. She was hurt I did it alone but she was relieved that I wasn't going to be stressing anymore about the dress that was a little too small bc it would go up all the way but 7 buttons. HUGE WEIGHT LIFTED. Now I feel like the rest will be perfect!

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Latest activity by Kelly, on July 26, 2019 at 2:54 PM
  • Kayla
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    You go girl! There is no reason for you to be stressing so close to your big day! I'm so glad that you found another dress you love and feel comfortable in! At the end of the day, the important part is that you and your FH have a great time with your friends and family celebrating your marriage.

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  • Erin
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    I'm so glad you decided to get a new dress. It's not worth it to destroy your mental health to fit into a dress if it looks like it's just not happening. 13 years is a long time, we all change. It's something to be proud of, to admit to yourself that it's better AND safer to get a new dress instead of killing yourself to fit into a dress that just doesn't. You want to feel good leading into your wedding, not stressed and possibly defeated (if it didn't happen and you had to go to JCPenney). While there is nothing wrong with a department store dress (my mom picked her wedding dress out of a JCPenney catalogue when she got married in 1989) if you have your heart set on a bridal store dress, you likely won't feel as amazing on your wedding day.

    It takes a lot of strength to admit that your original plan wasn't working the way you wanted it to. I'm proud of you.

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  • STBMrsMartin
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Thank you Erin!!!!! I just had to do it, for me, I was so depressed. Hey I know there is nothing wrong with a JCPenney dress at all girl, they have cute dresses. I think my dad said that to basically motivate me bc the amount of money he has spent and now I can't wear the dress...it was coming between us. I def want to be happy and healthy mentally and physically, it was just something I had to do Smiley smile 13 years is a long time, why I ever thought I could get in that dress was outrageous...but it was so gorgeous I was determined, yet killing my joy slowly.

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  • STBMrsMartin
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    Thank you so much! It feels good to say it, to tell someone. I feel a bit embarrassed but at the same time, who's going to know that I even have a different dress, no one has seen it Smiley smile So now I can enjoy it and have an amazing day!

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  • Erin
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    Perhaps you could donate the dress to someone who might not be able to afford one? Bringing joy to another might counter-balance the disappointment of no being able to wear it yourself.

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  • SraDeCarrillo
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    Just a thought, you could always have the fabric from the old dressed turned into some sort of family heirloom. The fabric could become christening outfits for future children or something along those lines.

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  • Kaitlyn
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    Good for you!!! No reason for you to be killing yourself and having your parents guilt you over a DRESS!!!! I'm so glad that your mom wasn't upset and that everything is going to work out for you! WOO HOO 78 DAYS!!!! Smiley heart Smiley heart

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  • Kelly
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    Wow, I'm amazed you kept the dress for 13 years. I can't believe you'd even try to fit! You're definitely a dedicated person, but like you said your body changes. It's okay to go with the other dress.
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