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Just Said Yes August 2021

Will it look bad?

L Haywood, on August 16, 2021 at 8:06 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Will it look bad if no one turns up to my wedding from my side of the family?

My wedding is this Sunday - 6 days away! - and we were excited to get the family together to celebrate after the year 2020 has been and for the fact Covid has cause our wedding to be re-arranged 4 times, so it’s been a stressful one!
We invited 80 guests, 40 have confirmed, which is okay, all of whom are family members. My family is small, 14 of us in-fact, so it was really important that everyone came from my side. Well, now i’m feeling like i don’t exist.
In the last month, all but four of my family members have ‘made other plans’ and will now not be coming. Majority have booked holidays, or have friends coming to stay, in fact, only my grandmother had a good reason - she’s recovering from an operation.
So, am i mean for being really annoyed an anxious about this? Should i be happy they’re fitting in a holiday? Literally, only my two brothers and parents are coming from my side of the family.
My husband says it is what it is, and we’ll have a blast anyway. But i can’t help but fixate on the fact that no one from my family will be there apart from my parents and brothers. My husband’s family is a close knot group, so i know it’ll be commented on at some point during the day and i’m just feeling embarrassed and let down.

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Latest activity by Eileen, on August 17, 2021 at 1:35 PM

Master October 2020
Yasmine · on August 16, 2021 at 8:09 AM
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Yes its sad, but I agree with your husband. If there is nothing you can do to change it, then don't worry about it and enjoy your day. When my husband and I got married at our minimony it was majority of my family there, it was only about 8 of his family members there. He still had the time of his life and didn't let it get to him. Although our situation was a bit different and we had to uninvite a few of his family members, but still!
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Super March 2022
Candace · on August 16, 2021 at 8:37 AM
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I know how hurt you must feel and I agree with Yasmine and your husband. Focus on the family that are showing up for you. They love you and want to see you enjoy your special day. And now you will know who is really there for you.
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VIP August 2020
Katie · on August 16, 2021 at 1:13 PM
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I totally understand and we had many guests unable to come, some which were surprising. However there are pros to this you may be overlooking: you have more quality time to mingle with your guests and they won’t feel like “just a number”, immediate family is thee most important, which is checked as yes 👍, your family will get to know his family well instead of hanging with their own, your wedding day is where his family becomes yours as well so technically that day you are all family, less thank you notes to hand write, less jitters before you walk down the aisle. If you’re saving money with less guests, you can upgrade flowers if you like.

My heart goes out to you and your disappointment is valid, but you may realize day of, their attendance doesn’t matter as much as you thought ❤️❤️❤️
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Master August 2019
Rebecca · on August 17, 2021 at 3:20 AM
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The only people from my family who showed up (pre COVID) were my dad and my stepmom.
No one cared.
It says far more about the people who don't come than it does about you, and if anyone is rude enough to mention it, that's on THEM, not on you.
Relish the people who do come, enjoy your day, and if anyone tries to complain that you had fun, "sorry you missed it!"
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Savvy August 2021
Eileen · on August 17, 2021 at 1:35 PM
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My future wife is going through this same thing. It will mostly be my family there. My family keeps telling her that they are her family now. One thing we are doing to help make this less obvious is that we do not have people sitting “by sides” at the ceremony.
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