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Brooke
Just Said Yes June 2023

Widow remarriage

Brooke, on November 28, 2022 at 10:29 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
Hello! I became a widow at the age of 36. (Married for 15years) I am now 40 and am getting married in June of 2023. This is my fiance’s second marriage however, he has been divorced for 18 years. Two questions:
1) Are we silly to have a big wedding? We both got married the first time when we were 21 and so young. My mom basically planned her dream wedding not mine.
2) Do I have to have a simple dress? I feel so silly about dress shopping. I am 40 but I dont look it. My mom loves my fiance but hates weddings and thinks Im being silly (even though Im paying for everything) help and reassurance please.

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Latest activity by Pat, on December 1, 2022 at 11:30 AM
  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    You get to do the wedding of your dreams. The reception is to celebrate the wedding with family and friends. Plan it the way you are comfortable doing the event. There are lots of brides like you doing a mid-life marriage. Play it by ear which events surrounding the engagement and wedding you want to do.

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  • V
    Dedicated February 2023
    Vicki ·
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    If you are than I am too ! I’m 52 and this is my second wedding , my fiancé is 56. It’s been 26 years since my first . We are doing a big wedding but no bridal shower or engagement party. I say go for it!
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  • W
    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    Have as big and fancy wedding and dress as you want. Keep your mom out of wedding planning. This is your day!!
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  • Michele
    Rockstar July 2023
    Michele ·
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    Congratulations! You're absolutely not silly! I am almost 58 and planning a wedding. Grant it, we are eloping and it will be just us two but I am having it like I want. Got perfect shoes (most expensive I've ever purchased), crystal plate stand and candlesticks, a bouquet that cost more than my dress, ring box holder, a cutting cake, photographer and more. It's a milestone in life. You should celebrate as you'd like. Many said I should do the justice of the peace. It may be good for some, but not for me. At this stage in life, I've learned I don't want regrets at the end of my road and so, my sweet wedding. Do you, Sis!! Enjoy!!!
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  • N
    NewEnglandSettler ·
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    You do you. You're paying... you want it... your mom already had her wedding with your first... enjoy the hell out of it. Congratulations!

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  • Rachelle
    Beginner October 2023
    Rachelle ·
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    If this helps you any, this is my 2nd wedding & fiances 1st. I'm 50 (don't look it! ) & he's 46 (he doesn't either!) We just bought our 1st house together in July, he popped the question on my birthday & we are getting married on 10/21/23 in our backyard using a tent, but I did get a dress! It's definitely much different than my 1st one & I feel very sexy in this one! I'm not going to wear a veil, but may get a pretty hairpiece. Bottom line, celebrate the both of YOU! Do what makes you feel good & happy! Congrats!
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  • Michelle
    Super August 2021
    Michelle ·
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    There's no age limit to celebrating happiness. Have the wedding you both want-- as traditional or alternative as you both like. Discuss planning with your FS (not Mom) as partners who co-pay usually have lots to say, trust me. Best wishes, Bride!

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  • Jamiedeal
    Just Said Yes May 2023
    Jamiedeal ·
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    I know what you mean about feeling silly. I am 54! I think you should do you! don't worry about it - make it your day. Smiley smile

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Do all the things! Congrats on your engagement!

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  • E
    Beginner August 2023
    Emily ·
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    As someone also having a second wedding in her 40's do what makes your heart sing!! I got the sparkling dress of my dreams for my upcoming wedding and we want to be surroinuby our family and friends. My dad thinks the whole thing is embarrassing and told me not to invite my cousins in his side out of is own embarrassment, so I'm honoring that, but otherwise I don't care what he or anyone else thinks! Y'all do you as a couple!
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  • Pat
    Expert May 2023
    Pat ·
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    Pfffffttt ---- I have ya'll beat@ LOLOL I'm 66, he's 68 and this is our third time at this wedding thing ---- and we are having the party of all parties. I really couldn't give a crap what people think, this is our day, our celebration, and if you are a naysayer you're probably not even invited. Have fun and enjoy every minute of planning.

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