Hi ladies! Congratulations to all of you on your engagements and happy wedding planning!
I kind of wanted some advice on a touchy and complex situation. My fiancé and I have been together for almost 8 years. Both have been married before. We are in our mid 30’s (me) and early 40’s (him). We got serious fairly early on in our relationship, and marriage has always been a topic of discussion. He proposed to me on Christmas Day in 2018, and I graciously accepted. We’ve lived together, and have a home together, but he just keeps pushing off us getting married. This is breaking my heart and leaving me questioning everything. He will say he wants to marry me and can’t imagine his life without me, but why don’t his actions reflect is words? I’ve had multiple discussions. He will talk about it sometimes, but he doesn’t want to set a date. I ask him when he wants to get married and every time he says “soon”. We had a beach trip planned this Summer, and a few months ago, he said something about getting married on the beach. I said well, we could just get married on the beach, just the two of us, save some money and just have an intimate little ceremony. His exact words were “that’s a great idea, I wonder if the facility does stuff like that”. We talked about it for a couple of weeks and then he had the nerve to say I was going behind his back and planning stuff, when all I did was just reach out to officiants to get an estimated cost on everything. Then he tells me he doesn’t want to do it.
I just want some girlfriend advice or words of encouragement, I don’t need or want to feel any lower than how I’m feeling now. Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this!