Why. it is a tie.

I would not buy a tie this early either. I know planning is stressful, but you're blowing this way out of proportion. Find a tie that's close and call it a day.

You have to remember that people have other things going on in their lives as well and they might have been able to immediately jump on getting a tie right when you sent the link out. I've found with my girls, some of them have already purchased and have their bridesmaids dresses while others are waiting a bit. My wedding isn't until November, so some want to lose weight, some might be pregnant by then and don't want to buy in case they are. I know dresses are different than ties, but just $10 to you might be more for them than you know. Or they may not have had the time to get the tie before because of things going on you know nothing about. I would try to find a tie in as close to the color as you can. A lot of the times if you take it to a men's suit shop they can match to pretty much anything. I would try that if you can't find it online.

If you didn't give them a deadline you can't really blame them IMO. They didn't realize it was one of those items that isn't sold consistently, and honestly you probably didn't realize it either. I would say just look for a similar color.

Matching ties are kind of a pain to find and then you have to worry about them going out of stock, which is why ties will be part of our gift for the groomsmen. One less thing to worry about.

I would honestly probably not have gotten the tie yet either but,, as the bride, your frustration and exhaustion is completely understandable. Life is hard without adding in work, buying a house, and planning a wedding! My advice is to pick a new tie entirely and not worry about matching it to the old one. If you pick one that is similarly as inexpensive as the first one then you can cover the cost for the three groomsmen who were ahead of the game so as to not penalize them for doing what you asked the first time. $30 or $45 out of you pocket is worth the time and effort you would spend agonizing over getting a a new tie that matches.

Sorry, but I think you are overreacting. Most items on Amazon someone can purchase and receive within two days and with the wedding still several months away I'm sure they didn't think they needed to order a tie immediately. Amazon also has a pretty easy return policy so I would see if the three groomsmen could return the ties they already bought or reimburse them the $10 they spent then I would then look a new tie and if you have to purchase them yourself.

Amazon usually ships things within a few days, even if you don’t have prime, so I’m actually more surprised 3 of the guys have the tie for a July wedding than I am that two don’t have it. I understand you’re frustrated by needing to find a new tie, but I do think you’re overreacting.

Certainly at the point you need calming down. If you had waited til the last 4 months, when most buy or rent BM and GM attire in order to make sure thr clothes fit, then all the stock would be current. People make this mistake with BM dresses, purchasing 3 and waiting on 2. then no match. But if they buy all very early, without fail, 1 or 2 will no longer fit nor be able to e altered. So two new dresses and they wont match. The key is for brides to stop trying to get WP to buy things early. Saves a whole lot of fighting with the BM-GM who want to wait til the right time. And all match.
--- next, the comfort: guys, like women's clothes, do not have to match everything down to the style or shirt collar or cugfs, nor do accessories have to match. Get a couple of other tan ties that look compatible enough ( not matching) from 8-10 feet and stop obsessing over silliness. Or pick two of some color, a red or blue, and mix them with the others. There is no reason they need be the same. Keep saying it to yourself "There is no reason they have to be the same" over and over, then stop wasting time.🙂

I would recommend buying new ties/bow ties for your party. This eliminates the stress of them not purchasing. It was also only $10 so it would be a cheap party gift.

Hi Chelsea! I totally get you! It is really difficult to manage so many people and the closer my wedding got, the more frustrating it became with small, very simple tasks I delegated early on and was told “it’s fine, it’s too early, your worrying over nothing” to only circle back to me weeks, even days, before our wedding for the tasks to land back in my lap. 🙄 I get it completely- what guests and some bridal party members don’t realize is you’re juggling about 100 things and it would just be nice to have some work out as planned ❤️ Good luck and just remember your planning will soon come to an end!! 👍

Why isn't your FH handling this?


I agree that unless you gave a deadline, many people would not have made a purchase so early. People have other things going on other than your wedding.
Just have the 2 remaining groomsmen wear a complementary or similar shade. It will look deliberate.
It's going to be ok.