Why is this so difficult!!!

If your FH wants them in the wedding, they can stand on his side. Not because the sides are uneven, but because they're his sisters and he wants to include them. No, they wouldn't be bridesmaids, they would be groomswomen. They can wear the same dress or something to coordinate with the groomsmen, whatever you want. The same goes for getting ready, it's your decision. Typically they would get ready with your FH since they're his side of the wedding party.

If your FH really wants them in the wedding. but you don't want them on your side, I think it's fine if they stand on his side. Most girls I've seen that stand on the groomsmen side wear the color that the groomsmen are wearing, but you could do the same color as the bridesmaids dresses if you prefer. It's, also, not a big deal to have different numbers for the flower girls/ringbearers. They stand infront of the bridal party so it doesn't look odd when they're different (I have 4 ringbearers and 1 flower girl).

Honestly, this is no big deal. You have the most important people to you and to him by your side for support.

If you are leaning towards them standing on his side, I would consider them.. groomswomen? In all the pictures I have seen, the girls wear the same or similar style as the bridesmaids, but in the same color as the suits/tuxes (Navy Suit/Navy Dress, Grey Suit/Grey Dress, etc.). I'd say this is a more modern approach to things, so if you're a more traditional, I'd just have them stand on your side. No matter what, I'd still include them in your bridal plans, including getting ready. I'd imagine all your FH friends will be hanging out before the wedding, and will be doing things his sisters wouldn't be interested in. You all might bond over that time as well!

I agree with Caytlyn--if FH wants them in the wedding, and you don't really want them as your bridesmaids, they can stand on FHs side, as groomswomen.

But here's the thing I keep coming back to: your profile shows your wedding as still two years away. A lot can happen in two years, in terms of relationships and family drama, etc. Most of us here would advise against assembling your wedding party so early, as you just never know what's going to happen over the course of two years. You may want to table this discussion with FH (and his sisters) until more time has passed, at least a year from now. If you feel the same way in a year, then propose this idea to FH. But maybe something happens along the way, and you get closer to one or both of his sisters. If that were to happen, you may want them to stand up with you on your side. Or, what if something happens, and FHs relationship with his sisters is damaged. Maybe you both decide that neither sister will be in the wedding party. You see my point? So much can happen. It's safer to wait until 10-12 months out to ask your family/friends to be part of the wedding party.

My husband had his sisters on his side as groomswomen.

I think it’s nice to have groomswomen. I have a bridesman. In my personal opinion I think they should get ready with you and wear the same color dress as the other girls just stand on his side. My bridesman will match the groomsmen. I just think it’s unfair when the bridesmaids get to wear a beautiful shade of lavender or pink or teal and the groomswomen are stuck in gray. And I played violin at a wedding where the bridesmaids wore red, the groomsmen wore black suits and red ties, and the grooms women wore gray still. It just seemed like a punishment to me!

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So the only thing that would be different in when they walk down the isle, instead of standing on my side they'll stand on his side? and when taking pictures they'll be on his side?

View Quoted Comment Yes I think that’s the smoothest way to do it. I’m having my bridesman take pics with both groups though!

I completely understand how you feel. My husband has a female best friend and I can't stand her and he insisted on having her on his side of the wedding so I had my brother on my side. As for getting ready, she got her hair done with us and she decided to do her own makeup so she did that in her hotel room. She also got dressed in her room. I bought her the same gift as the bridesmaids and my brother got the same gift as a groomsmen except I also bought him a special bridesman's shirt that no one else got. Bridesmaids got a wine glass and robe whereas groomsmen got a mug that looked like a baseball bat. We knew she would prefer the wine glass and my brother would prefer the mug which is why we gave those. For photos she was in a few getting ready photos with us, but once she was dressed she went with the guys after they were dressed. My brother and dad got dressed with the guys then joined us ladies after everyone was dressed. As for what she worn, she worn the exact same dress as the bridesmaids. I had wanted her to wear the same dress but in black to match the guys tuxes, but my husband didn't like that idea. She was also the only girl that didn't tie the sash on her dress in the back like I wanted it to be instead she decided to tie it in the front. 😠 I think it was actually rather easy to handle once we figured out where everyone was getting ready. If he wants them in the wedding and you don't want them on your side he should ask them to be groomswomen. I love my husband's wife so it was my idea to make her a bridesmaid otherwise she wouldn't have been in the wedding at all. It all really depends on your relationship with the person and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship with his sisters.

I wouldn't care about even sides. We had uneven sides, several weddings we have been in or been to had uneven sides. No one cares or notices. I wouldn't add them just because he wants to, I think the groomswomen is a great way to include them!

When my brother got married, I did not expect to be a bridesmaid. We got along but were not great friends. I am a music teacher and have some musical skills so she asked me to be the ceremony musician and my sister did a reading. Maybe suggest including them in a different way. It was nice to still be a part of their day even if not in the wedding party.

I suggest having them wear something identical with each other, but different from the bridesmaids. Then they have their own "group" in all the alter pictures. They can stand on his side because he wants them there, but the difference in attire separates them from the bridesmaids and then they won't really be included in anything you do with your bridesmaids. Don't let them ruin your time with your bridesmaids by making things awkward, etc.

Nothing wrong with having it be uneven. Nothing wrong with having them in the same bridesmaids dresses, getting dressed with you girls, but standing on the groom's side as they're there in support of their brother. Nothing wrong with ditching all of the bridesmaids and waltzing down the aisle alone. It's your wedding. Do what you want. No one is going to be counting who's who or what's what trust me.

HE should have them on his side because HE wants them there. YOU shouldn’t feel pressured to include anyone in your BP you don’t want to/aren’t close with. Sure it’s his wedding too, but it’s *your* bridal party— which should be your nearest and dearest! If it’s important to him to have them be part of his wedding, they should be a part of HIS side. Treating them as Groomswomen solves a lot of this. You all can decide together if you want them to match the girls or the guys. You shouldn’t feel obligated to have them get ready with you (which I think if they were bridesmaids and you were getting ready with the others— you would have that obligation)