Ok My FH and I want to keep our costs low. And we've cut a huge chunk by having a cash bar for alcohol and open for juices/softdrinks (think what you want but we are NOT paying for alcohol...PERIOD! So comments about that can be kept... lol). He wants to invite only 50 ppl max and honestly, that isn't possible unless he cuts people from his side of the list.
We have 69 total on paper (down from 75 with people cut on my side) and I am trying to tell him to estimate that 10% of your invited guest will not come/rsvp for one reason or another. He has this notion that everyone that he invites "BETTER" show up. I'm like dude you are being so unrealistic. Not to mention he has to also count any vendors, like our DJ, unless one of his cousins is going to do that.
I have invited my immediate family and a few close cousins (16) and close 4 friends from high school that I still talk to regularly and their husbands. He has 23 family members alone all who have to travel 4 hours or more to come to our city. Well I am sure someone isn't going to make it because our wedding is on a Friday and someone may not be able to get the day off no matter how much they try or early they request, someone just may not have the means, or may fall ill. My granny is all the way in Florida and we live in Central NY and she is older and may not be able to make it BUT I have to invite her. I already cut my godparents who also live in Florida even though i wanted them there.
I don't want to cut anyone else from the list, because everyone invited, I want there on our special day. And the venues we are evaluating all require at least 50 ppl minimum to even book the room.
How can I get him to accept the list we have now as the final list.
Any suggestions are appreciated.
Thanks,
