I'm having a moral dilemma. I spent a few months working with a local jeweler and custom designing my ring to my exact specifications, which my fiance was happy to participate in and pay for. The ring turned out exactly how I described and the jeweler did a fantastic job... But now that I've been wearing it for 3 months, I'm not in love with it.
I feel awful. I've always known I'm very fickle and change my mind a lot, but I was so sure this was exactly what I wanted. It just looks so much different in person than it did in my head. I love the center stone, but everything else is just blah. I wanted a hidden halo, which I still like, but I didn't consider that from above (the way I and most other people will see it most of the time) it's kind of plain. I also wanted the engraving on the band, but it makes the band kind of clunky. I'd prefer a very thin dainty band considering I have very short fingers.
We also designed a custom wedding band, which is just like this band without the stone, so I feel like I don't need the engraving on both. I hadn't planned to wear both once I got married, but now I think if I have an e ring that I love I might actually want to. The problem is that even if I don't wear the e ring anymore once we're married, I'm still going to be wearing it for a long time because we don't plan on getting married until COVID is long gone, so it could be years. If I'm wearing this ring for years I want to love it.I haven't confessed this to my fiance yet because I'm scared he's going to pitch a fit because I changed my mind so many times in the design process and insisted that this was it. Who's to say I won't change my mind again if I end up changing it? What do I do? Anyone else struggle with always changing your mind about what you like? Any advice on how to approach the subject with my fiance? Or should I just live with a ring that doesn't feel like "me"? And if I change it, any suggestions on dressing it up from above?P.S. I am still carrying my extra pandemic weight, so I will be losing a good amount of weight before the wedding, so the ring will need to be resized anyway. I'm willing to wait until then to redesign it. I know changing the entire ring will cost more than resizing, but I'm also more than willing to pay for it since I'm the one who can't make up my mind.
