Why do weddings cause so much drama?

They do if you allow it.

Your boss is stupendously rude to invite herself and guests to your wedding. Your bridesmaid is unreasonable, but you'll live without her kids, and hers if she chooses to drop out. She is totally contradicting herself.

I'm sorry this is happening. I'm not inviting my bosses (I'm a teacher and I really don't want my principal watching me drink and whatnot. Plus he's new this year so I don't know him that well yet). Now the whole thing with your sister idk what to say. Maybe just ask her to help stuff envelopes so she's not butt hurt.

Thanks ceclia. I needed that reassurance. @tina I totally would have bit I literally had 20 invites and they are already addressed and ready to be sent. I seen it to be pretty pointless to ask someone to help me with that when there is only 20 of them lol

My MOH (not my sister but a very close friend) was also upset that I didn't ask her to do anything really. I was very surprised. She wanted to stuff envelopes, address them and even pay for them! I also told her I just want her to buy the dress and have a great time the day of. We ended up having an open and honest conversation and I just told her that it wasn't that I didn't value her or her offer to help but that I didn't agree with what she thought were MOH "obligations".

Unfortunately weddings do seem to bring out the ugly in people!

Thanks JMA. I'll try talking to her. She is a single mom of three kids who works two jobs so I really wasn't about to put more stress on her and plus in her words "she hates weddings and doesn't give a flying F about mine so why should she revolve her life around it" but then be upset that I didn't ask you to do pointless bullshit I can handle on my own when you don't care to help in the first place and are only trying to make me feel like shit. Its nutso IMO.

Outside of WW, many bridesmaids expect to help the bride with various tasks. When I was a bridesmaid, I helped my friend with almost everything. I was happy to help her. It was not until WW did I learn that some here think it's rude to expect bridesmaids to do anything but buy the dress and show up. Your sister probably assumed when she became a bridesmaid that she would help you with your wedding.

Mind you, she is childish to threaten to pull her kids out of your wedding, but it also sounds like she is hurt by you not asking her for help. If you have any DIY projects left, maybe she can help. With that said, your sister should have just told you how she felt without throwing a tantrum.

If she wants to help so badly then I would let her!! The key difference is you're not forcing her to do anything, but if they volunteer you can absolutely give them something to do!

The thing is she doesn't want to help! The only thing I have left is to make the bouquets, which I invited her to help but she already had plans for the day Im doing it. She says she's wants to help but really she is just throwing a fit for no reason because the attention is not on her, My wedding planner has handled pretty much everything for me and she knows that. She came wedding dress shopping with me and she picked her own dress out. Everything else, like picking vendors and such isn't up to her to pick. That's up to FH and I. She doesn't even have time to help even if I needed the help so idk why she is freaking out on me. I've involved her in as much as she wanted to be involved. I've talked to her and asked opinions on things to make her feel included. I've asked her what she wants the kids to wear and I offered to pay. I haven't exluded her from anything but she is acting like I'm in a bitch for not asking for help everyday, like she actually cares but then tells me she's sick of hearing about the wedding and she doesn't care? I literally can not win with her.

It sounds as though there is no winning with your sister. My aunt was the same way. She caused drama just so she could be the center of attention. There really isn't anything you can do now. The drama is her issue.

Wow....My ceremony is immediate family only and I have the same dilema not enough space for my boss and 2 other coworkers. As for your sister I'm shock that she doesn't value your suggestion on her focus on her dress and making sure her kids are on point..that's a big responsibility right there...I hope she changes he mind, cause that would be a headache for you to find ppl to replace them all. Good luck!!

Your sister sounds alot like mine.... And I think they are jealous,....

its hard to please her and i know what you are feeling... i have to let it go though cause I would just lose my mind if i didnt....

Im sorry you are going thru this!

I wonder if this is your sister's way of reaching out because she misses hanging out with you? Wedding planning is a very frenetic time for the bride and groom and sometimes the couple is less social because their schedules are so packed with wedding errands?

People for some reason get extra sensitive about weddings. It's so hard to please everyone. Just remember the wedding is yours & your FH's...you are the only 2 people that need to be happy with every decision.

Sometimes the thought of other people's happiness brings out the worst in people. I agree with JMA's thought of having an open and honest conversation about you not wanting her to feel obligated to do anything extra besides showing up on the day in her BM dress. I'm sorry that she's being difficult with the threat of pulling her kids out of your day. Maybe try to get to the root of what's really troubling her, it seems like she's taking some sort of frustration or personal problem out on you. Hope it all works out!