Why do people say your wedding day shouldn't be one of the happiest days of your life?

As someone who had a marriage not work out, and is now planning a second wedding, I can tell you that there are so many things in life that bring joy that don’t even compare to your wedding. I’m not sure why it wouldn’t rank as one if your happiest days though. Perhaps they meant it as you are saying, that the happiness for a wedding should be about the marriage and commitment, not just the event itself. Don’t let other peoples views bring you down and enjoy the planning process!

My wedding definitely will be one of the happiest days of my life. My childrens births tops the list. But my wedding yea not just because of the day but because i waited so long until the right man came along. Being married to him is a dream come true. Spending my life with him is an exciting and wonderful feeling. He makes me happy like no man has ever in my life so yea it will be one of the happiest days of my life on my wedding day.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I think its different when you've dated frogs and realized this is the best it gets. Aint nothing out there. When your older and know what you want, getting married is a very big deal. I feel the exact same. It exciting knowing this will be the father of my children. Its exciting transitioning into wife

View Quoted Comment Not to mention the excitement of knowing your going to create life together someday. It's so magical and means alot to me. I dont take it lightly.

The officiant at FH cousin’s wedding said something like this during their ceremony. When he spoke about it further, he said that he hoped their happiness in day-to-day life continued to grow and blossom. Otherwise, they’d just be going downhill from day one.

Not sure if this is what you were going for in your question but it’s a different way to look at it!

I’ve never heard this. I’ve only heard “ your wedding day SHOULD be one of the happiest days of your life.”

I’m so/so on it. The day will be happy for me because I will be marrying the man I’m in love with, but I know I will be super anxious. I didn’t want a wedding in the first place, I wanted to elope. My FH refused to get married w/o his parents being there.

No to mention, traditionally, marriage reasons were completely different than the reasons we marry today.

*Not to mention, traditionally, marriage reasons were completely different than the reasons why we marry today.

It will be my 2nd happiest. As someone who wanted kids since they could remember i think having a baby will top my list

Who on earth says this?! It’s gonna be my happiest! (Although I can think of a couple others that are very close)

I've never heard that said....

I've literally never heard anyone say that.

View Quoted Comment Having a child would actually make me value the marriage even more. Without my partner there wouldn't be a kid. Lol

I’ve also never heard this at all, but it’s a nice way to alleviate pressure— a lot of couples stress out trying to MAKE it the happiest day of their lives, which can lead to intense disappointment. It’s such a whirlwind day of that it’s probably better not to put the pressure on that it has to be perfect and you have to love every second.

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I like this perspective!

View Quoted Comment This is me. When brides say their wedding was the best/happiest/perfect day, I'm so happy for them and then I go curl up into a little ball of anxiety about my own day. I'd never tell somehow how they should feel about their day but placing SO much importance on it has been really hard for me.

I actually appreciate friends who tell me to think of it as a family party we just happen to be getting married in the middle of 🤣

My wedding day was absolutely one of the best days if my life. I was the happiest I have ever been, and it shows in all of the pictures! I made conscience choices through the process to specifically make that day happy, calm and stress free. You live and learn not to stress the small stuff, and that is what I did. It was bliss.

I have children. 3 in fact. My love for them is never-ending. But for me, the day they were born, I did not have the joy I had on my wedding day. I was happy they were here. But I was also an exhausted, physically wrecked, emotional nightmare. It took me months to recover from that.

We are all told how something should feel to us or what society thinks should be the "best day ever". That quote alone has so many different meanings to every different person. To me, anything can be a big letdown if you overthink it or try to make it fit into a perfect day "box". Really think about what the perfect day for YOU would be and work towards that goal.

I think you guys are concentrating on the actual event instead of the action of getting married. It's not about the wedding and perfection, nothing is perfect...its about becoming the wife of your one and only love. The excitement of becoming his wife and having children together. It's the meaning behind the wedding. I dont understand what is the pressure. No one at the wedding even matters other you and your spouse.