Why do everyone feel they should be entitled to an invite? Vent...

They just want to celebrate with you. Let them down kindly.

I could not count the amount of times that people say "I can't wait to go to your wedding" even though they will not be invited. We run a successful business and up until 17 months ago, we ran two businesses so we know most of our town's 3000 residents. The maximum number of people in the largest venue available is less than 200...lol

I've only had this issue once so far, thankfully. I know it will happen more eventually though.

I've had MANY people make this statement to me. I just tell them that we are working out our budget. Once we have that figured out, we'll start with the guest list. As much as we want to invite everyone, finances will limit the number of guests.

Stick to your guns and don't cave in- went home with FH and saw a couple that I met one time last year. The guy tells me he's not speaking to me since he wasn't invited to the wedding. "Bye Felecia" I just looked at him. End of the day , out list is set and there is no more room.

I don't feel anyone should be invited. This is not like a birthday party. But we will be sticking to our guns. FH is already sticking to them and he is serious.

My mom's neighbor attended my sisters wedding in April because my sister is close with her daughter. At the reception, she came up and started chatting about my wedding and asked when it was. After I told her, she proceeded to tell me how sorry she was that she had too much planned that weekend and wouldn't be able to make it.

I had no idea how to respond since we weren't inviting her, so I changed the subject. Wonder if she assumes she didn't get an invite because of that conversation.

People are clueless and obnoxious. Period. I am inviting friends I am not terribly close with anymore but who I grew up with and I want them to be there. I have gone sometimes months without talking to them, but I just moved here (MD) a year ago and don't have many friends in the area so inviting my best friends since childhood is fine for me.

I totally understand the budget in relation to guest list concerns. I have decided to have a destination wedding to "weed out" the ones who would just want to come to drink and eat for free - as bad as that sounds! Some of FH's family are __________ (fill in the blank with your favorite triflin' adjective) so I don't know. I have a small budget too and want to be on a beautiful beach for the ceremony.

My favorite is "I'm invited to your wedding right!? *smile*"

Um actually no you are not... I don't think I would ever say that to anyone unless it was my bff or my sister where it's a duh, I'm going to be invited. Lol.

I have been going through this same exact rant. I didn't put how many people people are allowed on the invitations. I ASSUMED people knew that if it says Mr. and Mrs, then I am inviting them two and no more, and if it is addressed to a single person, they obviously they can bring a plus one. My brother in law's brother put that 3 are attending. Apparently they think that he, his wife and his wife's mother can come. If I wanted the wife's mother to be there, I would have invited the e b%*ch. Now I have to tell him that she can't come and hope they don't get offended. Then I have another guest thinking she's bringing 4. I addressed it to Mr. and Mrs. and she thinks she's bringing her two kids. Not to mention one is only 17 (and FH told her this is an adult only event). She was corrected really quickly. The nerve of some people. I don't understand why people don't realize we have to pay for food for all of these people. My FH barely talks to this lady. Why would she think she's allowed to have 4 people? The RSVP part of wedding planning is definitely not fun at all.

I agree, this is so frustrating. I was working at a different job when I got engaged. All of my ex-coworkers think they are invited. I hated that job and my coworkers were a huge source of stress in my life. I don't want to be reminded of that on my wedding day. I have avoided these people like the plague since I left that job, just so I don't have to discuss the wedding with them. Plus one of my ex-coworkers thinks that she is a great wedding planner and photographer (she is not). She insists on trying to help. It's hard to politely say, "thanks, but no thanks."

Don't cave in. Clearly state that it's a very close family function and that's why many people are not invited not because you don't want to but it's your and your FH's decision to keep it strictly family and very very very close friends who are practically family. If they are your friend, it's something they would understand and you know what they would just celebrate with you another time in your own way!

Some people are just jerks in that way. Some just want an opportunity to have a free meal and drink and not really care about the bride and groom. Some just honestly think they have some kind of right to be there when really they shouldn't. I've come across that once already. It's just a friend I made at school but we are not incredibly close or we haven't hung out outside of school yet she think she's invited to my wedding. She even tried to have a "friend" war with one of my bestfriends saying that "oh, she's getting married and she's my friend and we've been really good school friends" and yada yada yada. Little did she know that my bestfriend is already one of my bridesmaids and has been one of my bestfriends for years LOL. My BFF just let it go and kinda laughed to herself because she just felt bad. I haven't given that girl an invitation so hopefully she kinda got the hint now that I'm not inviting her because I haven't spoken to her in almost a year since I'm not in school anymore LOL.

That is crazy to me. I feel people that support you and want to see to together should be at your wedding. It is people that want to be invited and I know forsure that they don't like my FH. I am not about to invite you. I think it is funny how I get random text from people asking about the wedding. I don't get a "hello" text from these people any other time. I don't even get holiday text or calls. I will say stick to your guns ladies. This is our day!

I am too on the same boat.. I clearly made a guest list and showed my close family members who is and isn't invited.. Idk if im being a little Bridezilla but i made it clear that NO one else is invited if they aren't on the list.. Hence their plus ones are on the list as well, so there's no reason to invite more people.. Ugh its just frustrating to even think people want to go just to say they were there. I mean am I being a little too much?.. Also I seriously was contemplating on inviting my brother because his wife and i aren't really , lets say we rather have our space.. any who, the day i took her invitation she started saying bad things about my wedding , like "who is invited that way I can know if she should go.." I was so shocked she had the nerve to even mention that... Ugh! please let me know any of your opinions.. Thanks!