Who's supposed to plan the bachelorette?

Nothing. She may be planning something already, or asking your friends not to say anything. Let her do what she's got to do.

I wouldn't ask another friend to step in unless they have already offered to help. If they have offered, put the friend in touch with your MOH. Your MOH still has plenty of time to plan something. Maybe she's coming up with ideas and places before contacting others.

You do nothing. If your other friends are
concerned and want to help plan, they should reach out and offer and talk to her instead of waiting for her to make a move.

Your wedding isn't until October, there is lots of time for someone to plan something. Remember that parties like bachelorettes or showers are completely optional and not an expectation for anyone to plan.

I would maybe get a friend to assist her with the planning portion of it. She could just have a lot on her plate or maybe she feels she has time

1. The only person who is supposed to plan your bachelorette party is the person who offers. You should not pressure someone to throw one. If no one offers (of if they are too busy) you don't have a party, simple as that.

2. There is still lots of time before your wedding your MOH may be waiting until closer to start planning something.

3. No, you do not ask someone else to step in (see point 1). You should have never asked your MOH either but, that ship has already sailed.

You need to let this go and stop worrying about it. This isn't something you need to be involved in.

Your wedding is in October, so you're worrying about this for no reason.

I planned my friend's bachelorette party as a working mom to 18 month old twins. It can be done, but it doesn't have to be done 6 months out. Relax and give her time. If my friend was expecting me to start planning a night out 6 months in advance I would have told her exactly what I'm telling you.

If your friends are that concerned, they should reach out to her and offer to get the ball rolling.

You should sit back and let it happen.

You should relax about this. You still are a long way out from when your bachelorette would be happening. My moh planned my bachelorette as a working mom to two toddlers (1 and 3). She did it less than a month before the party and the party was 5 weeks before the wedding so roughly two months before the wedding is when she started.

There is no exception to the rule that adults don't plan parties in their own honor. If no one steps up, without prompting from you, you don't have one. If your friends raise the subject, tell them to contact your MOH.

Nope nope nope. If she isn't planning it that's it. You don't get a bachelorette. Let her do her own thing and take a step back. It's a totally optional party and no one needs one.

Yeah if she's already said she's going to plan it, then you need to let her do her thing, especially since you've given her a possible guest list. You've done all you need to do and you've got plenty of time.

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What she said, all of it.

Thanks for the reality check, y'all. I think the Q's from other people were starting to get to me.

It may be “rude” to “throw one in your honor” but I really don’t think anybody will care. Like if you want one, just don’t call it a bachelorette.

hat seems to be the secret here because people love to get hung up on semantics on this forum. “People shouldn’t finance your honeymoon.”

Who gives a crap? Do you have any idea how many people asked me if I was using my wedding money to go on a honeymoon? Do you know how many people use their gifts to buy a house? I didn’t have a honeymoon fund or anything. Just guests gave us money.

Like “you can’t throw a party in your honor.” Who says you are? By asking your friends to hang out with you together- you’re essentially celebrating together and nothing is wrong with you if you call it a bachelorette. You can call it Wisconsin for all I care.

ike I didn’t have a bachelorette party per se. I just asked if my two bridesmaids and my sister wanted to come to the beach with me for a few days. They all accepted that to be my bachelorette party. But I didn’t ask them to throw it- just if they’d join me at a nice place.

View Quoted Comment The issue is that for a bachelorette, the bride is almost always paid for by the other people attending. You’d basically be saying “come hang out with me and pay for me for everything we do”.

My girls did pay for me when we went to the beach- but I didn’t ask them to. It doesn’t have to be expensive. We had a lovely time and want to do it again. Like it didn’t cost them anything but gas and alcohol. And they paid for my dinner. But I didn’t ask them to. They did that all on their own.

Our bachelorette party is in two weeks and my man of honor just booked the airbnb and started planning this week. There's still lots of time!

I know you are excited and have been dreaming about this, and would be devastated if you didn't get a great bachelorette - we all would. I don't understand the hate on here, this isn't Victorian England and I'm all for being kind but none of these people practice classical etiquette in the rest of their lives, so I get amused when I see the shock, horror, and clutching of pearls when anyone mentions wanting to stray from their set-in-stone rules. None of your real-life friends would get offended if, for some reason it becomes august and you haven't heard any bachelorette plans yet, you decided to take matters into your own hands to make sure you get a night out with your girls - you can certainly bring it up casually, just never say "we are going here, on this day, and you can all deal with it." That said, you have a TON of time and don't even need to be worrying about this yet. Give her time - as you said she's a busy momma so she's probably not thinking about this too much 7 months out, or maybe she is and just hasn't put plans in stone yet. Heck I only had 10 months to plan my whole wedding!

Anyway, I'm sure that if she falls through on this, your other girls will plan you something.

P.S. if you're expecting a lavish getaway weekend, accept the fact that you might not get that - not everyone has the budget to do that and not every bride goes to Vegas with her girls - a night on the town wherever you are can be just as much fun! Search "bachelorette scavenger hunt" online and hit the bars - instant, no-stress party and all you need planning-wise is your girls.