Whos does what??

No one besides your and your significant other is supposed to do anything unless they are a paid vendor. Sometimes people have family members or friends offer to host a shower or bachelorette. If people offer to work on any diy projects with you that’s fine if you want to accept but I wouldn’t ask anyone or delegate things.

MOHs traditionally will plan and host your bridal shower and bachelorette party, if they are able and willing to. I have been doing my own planning, but my MOH is joining us for the floral consult and wants to join the cake tasting. She will also be coming with me to a bridal expo. My MOH is also my sister, so she’s happy to join for anything! All depends on what they are available for, and how much you/they want to be involved.

Your MOHs only responsibility is to buy their attire and come to the wedding. Anything else that they volunteer to do is extra.

I'm doing almost everything myself, I'm pretty picky that way. I just have ppl asking me what they can do or help with or need done and I'm over here like "I don't know or I already did it".

I just straight up asked people if they would be interested in helping out and what would they be comfortable with doing. We got answers from making our guest book to just giving us money to help pay for stuff

Your bridal party is not required to do anything but to buy their dress & show up the day of. Bachelorette party & bridal shower are not mandatory but a nice gesture if they want to

The bride and groom should be doing pretty much all of the planning for the wedding, unless you've hired a planner or coordinator. My mom really wanted to do something so I let her pick out the flowers, do the welcome bags for the hotel, and do favors (so all smaller things so she didn't get overwhelmed). We consulted our parents about the guest list, my parents paid for all of it, but we planned it all. My mother planned my entire shower and my MOH planned my entire bachelorette.