Jameelah
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Who’s coming to your rehearsal dinner?

Jameelah, on July 5, 2019 at 9:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 35
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My rehearsal dinner list is getting too large and I need to not invite some individuals I was initially going to invite. Traditionally, who are mandatory guests besides the wedding party and parents?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on July 8, 2019 at 2:23 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Wedding party, immediate family, significant others.
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  • Jameelah
    Dedicated July 2021
    Jameelah ·
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    Yea that’s who I have..
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  • Raven
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Raven ·
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    I had to scale back, before I sent out the invite, to just the wedding party and the parents.
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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    That’s exactly who we are having.
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  • Mary
    Devoted November 2019
    Mary ·
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    Wedding party, parents and parents of wedding party (for flower girls and ringbearers)
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    There’s really no one you can cut then.
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  • Jameelah
    Dedicated July 2021
    Jameelah ·
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    I thought about doing that, and that’s what my FH wants to do, but I feel like it’s bad etiquette. Spouses of the wedding party and siblings should be invited too. How did you tell your wedding party that their spouses weren’t invited? And your grandparents, were they expecting to come?
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  • FutureMrsN14
    Super July 2018
    FutureMrsN14 ·
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    We just had wedding party and their significant others, our immediate families, and our officiant. We didn’t have our grandparents or any other extended family.
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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    We're doing bridal party, their S/O, and our parents. Neither of us have living grandparents and our immediate families are in the wedding (each only have 1 sibling and kids are mine, my sister's, and my MOH's). And our officiant is my FH's cousin.
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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    Id say the only people you really need to invite are the parents, the wedding party and their spouses or dates and anyone who is in the wedding- officiant, readers flower girl/ring bearer
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  • The Bride
    Master March 2019
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    Only my wedding party was invited to the rehersal lunch because we wanted them to get to know each other better. My husband and I hosted our lunch at a Japanese hibachi restaurant where the bridesmaids were paired with their respective groomsmen. We started off the lunch by breaking the ice with a game of two truths and lie. Once everyone was comfortable we played a fun game of jeopardy to see who knew the bride and groom best. The lunch resulted in a lot of fun and everyone feeling more comfortable around one another. I don't think the wedding party would have really paid attention to each other if their spouses or other people we're there.
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    We will be inviting our
    4 bridesmaids
    3/4 significant others / husbands
    5 kids
    4 groomsmen
    4 significant others/wives
    4 kids
    2/3 ushers
    2/3 significant others
    If I convince fiance to add 3rd usher then his 2 kids as well
    My officiant will be extended an invite, though I probably won't invite her fiance or their 2 kids.
    My parents
    Fiances parents
    Grandma who lives with fiances parents.
    Flower girls and their parents are also welcome.
    So...
    A grand total somewhere around 40 - 46.

    My idea to have pizza and fazolis now looks like a super excellent budget choice.
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  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
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    We are doing 4 BM 3 of them have S/O so they are invited my dad his wife Fiancés parents. The two grooms women both single nephew single doing reading. FG RB and there parents they are siblings and sister and brother.
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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    We did bridal party and their dates, parents, officiant and his wife, and we had 3 out of town guests so we included them as well. Total we had 20.
    Mo grandparents, my husband didn’t invite his siblings, we just wanted to keep it small.
    I wouldn’t tell the bridal party their dates/spouses aren’t invited, you should be inviting them as well. As far as grandparents, we just didn’t give them an invitation.
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  • Btbride
    Super August 2019
    Btbride ·
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    I would say immediate family and anyone involved in the ceremony. So for us, that’s our bridal party and their SOs, parents, siblings and their SOs, the flower girl and her parents, and fiance’s uncle and aunt, since his uncle is our officiant.
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  • Kelsi
    Expert June 2020
    Kelsi ·
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    We have 35 people coming to ours. Bridal party, their SO’s (you can’t not include them, especially if out of town), parents, my grandpa, and my 3 cousins/their family.
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  • Heather
    Dedicated June 2021
    Heather ·
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    All im having at my rehearsal dinner is the wedding party and parents and mine an fh grandparents
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  • Jameelah
    Dedicated July 2021
    Jameelah ·
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    I think I’m going to keep it how it is. My wedding is a destination wedding, so I’m having a welcome party for everyone attending the wedding later on that evening because my rehearsal dinner is actually a rehearsal luncheon. Since I’m doing that I think it’ll be ok if I end up deciding to not invite siblings who aren’t in the wedding and grandparents.
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  • B
    Dedicated August 2019
    Blag ·
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    Just family, wedding party and plus 1s. Fiancé’s parents are inviting a few close friends but that’s it. I’m not even inviting out of town family otherwise we would have like 70+ people and we already have about 40-50 because we have 9 BM & GM...never what I wanted in the first place.
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  • B
    Dedicated August 2019
    Blag ·
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    Also I don’t want to be overwhelmed the day before but just relaxed. I had to fight with fiancé’s parents on not inviting out of town family. it’s difficult because the rehearsal dinner is for the future parents in law to plan etc but at the same time they have to consider the bride and what will make her comfortable. One time they told my fiancé if they had it their way they would have 200 people at the rehearsal dinner. That’s more than what we are having at our wedding. This series of events is truly about the bride and what makes her happy and comfortable. All of my bridesmaids are supportive, don’t cause drama and are nothing but positive. Fiancé’s parents are on the other end which is sad
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