I thought about doing that, and that’s what my FH wants to do, but I feel like it’s bad etiquette. Spouses of the wedding party and siblings should be invited too. How did you tell your wedding party that their spouses weren’t invited? And your grandparents, were they expecting to come?
We're doing bridal party, their S/O, and our parents. Neither of us have living grandparents and our immediate families are in the wedding (each only have 1 sibling and kids are mine, my sister's, and my MOH's). And our officiant is my FH's cousin.
Id say the only people you really need to invite are the parents, the wedding party and their spouses or dates and anyone who is in the wedding- officiant, readers flower girl/ring bearer
Only my wedding party was invited to the rehersal lunch because we wanted them to get to know each other better. My husband and I hosted our lunch at a Japanese hibachi restaurant where the bridesmaids were paired with their respective groomsmen. We started off the lunch by breaking the ice with a game of two truths and lie. Once everyone was comfortable we played a fun game of jeopardy to see who knew the bride and groom best. The lunch resulted in a lot of fun and everyone feeling more comfortable around one another. I don't think the wedding party would have really paid attention to each other if their spouses or other people we're there.
We will be inviting our 4 bridesmaids 3/4 significant others / husbands 5 kids 4 groomsmen 4 significant others/wives 4 kids 2/3 ushers 2/3 significant others If I convince fiance to add 3rd usher then his 2 kids as well My officiant will be extended an invite, though I probably won't invite her fiance or their 2 kids. My parents Fiances parents Grandma who lives with fiances parents. Flower girls and their parents are also welcome. So... A grand total somewhere around 40 - 46.
My idea to have pizza and fazolis now looks like a super excellent budget choice.
We are doing 4 BM 3 of them have S/O so they are invited my dad his wife Fiancés parents. The two grooms women both single nephew single doing reading. FG RB and there parents they are siblings and sister and brother.
We did bridal party and their dates, parents, officiant and his wife, and we had 3 out of town guests so we included them as well. Total we had 20. Mo grandparents, my husband didn’t invite his siblings, we just wanted to keep it small. I wouldn’t tell the bridal party their dates/spouses aren’t invited, you should be inviting them as well. As far as grandparents, we just didn’t give them an invitation.
I would say immediate family and anyone involved in the ceremony. So for us, that’s our bridal party and their SOs, parents, siblings and their SOs, the flower girl and her parents, and fiance’s uncle and aunt, since his uncle is our officiant.
I think I’m going to keep it how it is. My wedding is a destination wedding, so I’m having a welcome party for everyone attending the wedding later on that evening because my rehearsal dinner is actually a rehearsal luncheon. Since I’m doing that I think it’ll be ok if I end up deciding to not invite siblings who aren’t in the wedding and grandparents.
Just family, wedding party and plus 1s. Fiancé’s parents are inviting a few close friends but that’s it. I’m not even inviting out of town family otherwise we would have like 70+ people and we already have about 40-50 because we have 9 BM & GM...never what I wanted in the first place.
Also I don’t want to be overwhelmed the day before but just relaxed. I had to fight with fiancé’s parents on not inviting out of town family. it’s difficult because the rehearsal dinner is for the future parents in law to plan etc but at the same time they have to consider the bride and what will make her comfortable. One time they told my fiancé if they had it their way they would have 200 people at the rehearsal dinner. That’s more than what we are having at our wedding. This series of events is truly about the bride and what makes her happy and comfortable. All of my bridesmaids are supportive, don’t cause drama and are nothing but positive. Fiancé’s parents are on the other end which is sad