Who walks down first?

Good question???? I think that I am going to do it my way, and have my mom and stepdad walk down, then an usher escort my step mom down the aisle and then the have the usher's set my grandma's, etc. The only people who will be getting announced at the reception will be the bridesmaids, groomsmen and of course myself and fh

I would go Mom and step Dad, Step mom and escort, then grand parents, and brides family is usually escorted first, then your bridal party and then you, the lovely blushing bride and your dad (is thats who is escorting you)

Oh geez I didn't even think of what order this goes! All I know is me and my dad come last! LOL!

We're having fh mom walk in with him escorting him, then my sister (who is standing in as my "mom"..she passed away almost 2 y/o) who is being escorted by my son, then the pastor, the best man, then my bm, rb, fg, and MOH, then me and my dad. I may change it to the pastor walking in first, but not sure, yet.

Yea my dad is escorting me. and FH mom has passed away... his dad's GF is not important in anyway shape or form. I was thinking having step mom escorted in, then mom, then bridal party. i'm not close with grandparents either to have them walk in special. Wait...would his grandmother be escorted in??? Wow this is confusing!

Would it be odd to have my FH escort my mother (his parents are both deceased) to her chair and then have the 3 groomsmen escort my FHs 3 daughters to their seats? That way they all have someone to walk down the aisle with and the 'special guest' are escorted to their seats.

That sounds nice konishi wa, I think I am going to have my mom escorted first (idk by who) then my step mother with my brother, then the bridesmaids, MOH, Flower girl & ring bearer then me and my pops...

The reception my mom and her boyfriend, then my father and his wife, then FH father and his GF then the bridal party...and then us

Is it unusual to not include grandparents?

Konichiwa i am having fh escort the mlthers down the aisle andthen thatswhere he will meet the pastor at the front. then the gm's will escort the bm's then the ring bearer and fg's then me and mypapa

Oh I forgot about my grandmother! Maybe my brother (who's not in the wedding party) can escort my grandmother down the aisle. It seems like at some weddings I've been to the BM walk up the aisle by themselves and walk out of the ceremony with the GM. Am I crazy or is that the way it's sometimes done?

I have seen it done that way. We did it that way for my sisters 2nd wedding. This is so confusing! My cousin is the pastor who is marrying us. I am gonna ask him what should be done. He knows all the quirks about my family lol

Well the last wedding I went to was done this way (the BMs walk up by themselves). I just thought that that would leave the GMs free to escort the special guests!

I'm glad you brought this topic up Crystal! LOL ended up getting more questions than answers tho!

LOL TRUE!

That does leave the GM's to escort the special people. I didnt think of that before. Good thinking Konichi Wa! lol

Real mom's always first, with stepdad

THEN the real dad and step-mom

Take it from a photographer that has photographed A LOT of entrances.... it doesnt really matter the order. Besides if you have a DJ/Band that is hosting, they will direct the order because they are doing the announcements.

I just read that the brides parents (assuming they are still together) are escorted in after the grooms parents. The most "important" people are escorted closest to the bride. That is why the maid of honor walks in right before the bride. And since in most cases the brides parents are paying for the wedding they are escored in after the grooms parents.

I have DJ's many weddings, and from my perspective, the Mom who spent months with you in her womb is the one that is honored the most, thus she should always be in the position of honor. Which is the last in the ceremony entrance and the last in the reception entrance. I have seen it done the other way at the reception at a few weddings. Though when you think of where the tradition originated, it is clear that you would always lead up to the most important at the end of a group of people. (think of it like the queen of England being announced at her daughters wedding and where would it proper in protocol to announce her. Or if it were the president of the united states at his or her daughters wedding...) Knowing that there is a rule to how it is done is nice, but in the end, as others have posted, you can do it how you want to, with the understanding that you might ruffle some feathers. You can always say, "I researched it and I am just doing it as others have in the past". Ric M

Least important (but still important) to most important with the exception of the groom, best man and officiant, who traditionally don't go down the aisle but walk in from the side at the front as people of honor are seated (grandparents/parents). and exception to that is if you don't have ushers and you are having them walk the people of honor in.

I agree with the last 2 posts - those who are most important (i.e. closest to you, biggest influence in your life, most help with the wedding) go last. For example, my Mom is one of my best friends - she's my rock & has helped out so much with our wedding. So, our processional will run as follows: my sister (reader), FH's grand parents, my grandparents, FH's parents, my Mom (escorted by my nephew), BMs, MOH and finally me with my brother & step-dad.

In your case, with step-parents, I'd have the parent you're closest with walk last. If you're lucky enough to have an equally awesome relationship with both, I would say have your Mom walk last. As Richard M. said, she did carry you for 9 mos after all. And then there's the whole giving birth thing...

I would have the same order for the reception entrances as well. Good luck!

Are you close to your step parents? If not, are your parents civil to on another? If so, maybe you can cut out the step parents and have them walk in together for the reception?