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Just Said Yes June 2020

Who To Tell About Elopement

Katie, on April 21, 2020 at 7:16 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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My fiancé and I had to postpone our wedding until 2021. We have been together for 9 years and we don’t want to wait to get married - so we decided to elope this summer! We would have loved for our families to be with us but due to schedules there was no way to get everyone here even if the virus was gone. We have already paid for the venue and everything so we will still be having a big wedding next summer. My question is - who should we tell about the elopement? Immediate family? Everyone? No one? My concern is that I want to have someone take pictures of us (we are eloping in the rainforest) and I want to be able to look back at pictures of this special day and hang them in our house. But I’m worried about family or friends seeing the pictures or finding out somehow down the line and being upset with us for hiding it. On the other hand I’m worried that people will feel cheated of a wedding if we DO tell everyone and get “remarried” a year from now knowing we are already legally married.

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on April 23, 2020 at 7:16 PM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on April 21, 2020 at 7:44 PM
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You should tell everyone. Lying to and deceiving your loved ones isn’t a good way to start a marriage.
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Anais · on April 21, 2020 at 7:49 PM
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I'd be hopeful that people would understand that this is unusual times and you still wanted to be married. I'd recommend just telling them and saying you can't wait to celebrate your love next year.
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Kari · on April 21, 2020 at 8:05 PM
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I don't think there is any reason to keep your wedding a secret AND I think anyone who judges you for eloping in times like these is not worth worrying about. Go elope and let everyone know, then have your wedding and reception next year when it's (hopefully) much safer to do so. I think of a wedding as being the actual ceremony, so IMO you can get legally married beforehand and then still have a wedding later. There are couples who do "civil ceremonies" in a courthouse or city hall the week of their wedding to get the legal part out of the way and then have the wedding that weekend with whatever officiant and traditions they want, so why should putting more time between your legal elopement and your wedding/reception be any different? Do it and tell the world!
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Dedicated March 2021
Samantha · on April 21, 2020 at 10:24 PM
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Tell whoever you want! No one or everyone! It’s you and your fiancée choice, no one else
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Sherry · on April 22, 2020 at 4:00 PM
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You should tell everyone. No shame in getting married now and having a celebration later.
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Jennifer · on April 23, 2020 at 7:16 PM
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Definitely tell everyone! It is still a happy thing even though some sad things got in the way! People will understand that the guest list had to small due to social distancing restrictions and will happily come to your reception next year!
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