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Kayla
Beginner April 2021

Who to Room Single mob with?

Kayla, on April 13, 2020 at 3:55 PM Posted in Planning 0 6

Hello all!

Finally getting around to planning and we are doing a DW on the Big Island (moving there this summer). FH's and my parents are all divorced. My mom is the only single parent (traditional Catholic - says she'll never have another partner until my dad dies), and I'm struggling with who to room her with (we're covering accommodations for the WP and immediate family - 36 people).

Either she gets her own room (and would be the only one out of everyone, which seems sad and lonely to me!) or I add her to my paternal grandparent's room (they still love her and they all get along, but awkward nonetheless, right?).

Some context: A part from my grandparents, parents, and siblings, no one else in my family is invited. My maternal grandma (her mom) told me years ago she wasn't coming to my wedding. I'm still going to invite her, and if she says yes then they can room together (yay!), but I am anticipating she will say no. I quite like my mom's friend from work and they hang out - maybe I should invite her as my mom's plus one? I want a plan in place in case my maternal grandma says no. TIA!

6 Comments

Latest activity by Kayla, on April 27, 2020 at 10:25 AM
  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    Have you asked her what she wants? I wouldn't assume having her own room would be sad and lonely. Many people prefer not to share intimate accommodations with other people, whether they are ex-inlaws or not.

    Now, if your mom *would* prefer a plus one for traveling purposes, then I would definitely allow her that. But again, just ask her for her preference.

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  • Ally
    Dedicated June 2021
    Ally ·
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    Personally I wouldn’t feel lonely if I were in your moms position and had my own room (I’d actually prefer it). My parents are also divorced and my mom is single. She would be completely okay with staying in her own room. But I know your mom may feel different. I would just ask her if she’d be okay staying alone or if she wanted to bring her friend as a plus one, I wouldn’t see an issue with that as long as you’re okay with it. I definitely wouldn’t put her in your paternal grandparents room just to avoid the uncomfortableness for everyone. In my opinion, the best thing you could do is just talk to her. 😊
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  • M
    Expert October 2021
    Megan ·
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    Definitely ask her what she prefers

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Ask what she’d prefer. Personally, I’d want my own room if I were her and I wouldn’t be lonely at all.
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  • Caitlin
    Devoted June 2021
    Caitlin ·
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    I would ask her what she wants! Personally I would prefer my own room.
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  • Kayla
    Beginner April 2021
    Kayla ·
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    Thank you all! My mom says my grandma will most likely attend and that she would like to room with her. If she doesn't attend, then mom will gladly have her own room. Here I am trying to predict every little detail and I didn't even ask her like you all recommended. I appreciate it!

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