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Who to invite?

Alexandra, on February 14, 2020 at 10:38 AM Posted in Planning 0 10

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I am approaching the 1 year mark until my wedding, and it will be time to send save-the-dates this summer but I am just going back and forth on 3 people I want to invite - my 3 roommates from college. We were very close when we attended college, but due to unforeseen circumstances, I had to leave school and come home to finish my education. We have talked here and there over the years, but not as much as we used to years ago. I want to invite them all to my wedding, but I'm not sure.

I speak to one of them more regularly, but all these women are still my friends even though we don't see each other a lot and they are still important to me and had a small part in helping me become who I am. What do I do?

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Latest activity by Andrea, on February 14, 2020 at 7:05 PM

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null · on February 14, 2020 at 10:40 AM
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It sounds like you want to invite them, what's making you unsure?
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Chantal · on February 14, 2020 at 10:44 AM
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Totally invite them! If you want them there for your special day, I say go for it. I'm sure they would love to recieve an invite
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Alexandra · on February 14, 2020 at 10:46 AM
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Not sure really. I guess the fact it's been so long since we have hung out and talked regularly, I just don't want them to feel a certain type of way. But I want them there so I will probably just extend the invite to them!
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Melle · on February 14, 2020 at 10:46 AM
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It sounds like if you had room then it'd be fine to invite them
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Cyndy · on February 14, 2020 at 10:50 AM
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If you have room for them I say go for it. It seems like you want to invite them.
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Faith · on February 14, 2020 at 11:31 AM
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Make sure you absolutely want to invite them. We invited a few people we didn't think would come to our wedding because we haven't talked or seen them in a few years, and well everyone we didn't think would come are now coming. Its amazing that people want to celebrate our big day with us so it does make you feel nice, but our numbers are very tight with both of us having big families so it did add a little more stress with trying to make it work into our budget now. Nobody's fault but our own though!

So my advice, if you haven't talked to them in a while and aren't sure if you should invite them yet I would wait till you finish your invite list before sending the wedding invitations you don't have to send them a save the date to invite them later on to your wedding. However, if you miss talking to them more and seeing them then I would include them in your big day and maybe it would be a good way to recharge your friendship!

Best of luck, do not stress about it though it will all work out and congratulations on your engagement!
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Meghan · on February 14, 2020 at 12:21 PM
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It sounds like you want to invite them. If you have room in your guest list, I would do it. If you end up needing to make cuts due to budget or space, maybe reevaluate at that time.
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Alexandra · on February 14, 2020 at 3:51 PM
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Thank you! Yea I miss talking to them and just missing the way we used to be years ago, but I understand and everyone gets involved in their own lives.
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Alexandra · on February 14, 2020 at 3:53 PM
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Thanks Meghan. Yes, I miss our relationship and the way we used to do everything together. I understand that we have all gotten wrapped up in our lives as we've gotten older, but I am looking forward to recharging our friendship again!
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Andrea · on February 14, 2020 at 7:05 PM
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If I was in the same situation, I would choose not to invite them. How I see it is, if we talk on and off without a wedding upcoming, and we've lost touch, why would I be enticed to invite you to my wedding. My wedding isn't a reunion. Actually, I've been in a similar situation where I was wondering if I should invite a high school friend who I USED to be fairly close with... in the end, I chose against it.
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