Who to invite to catering tasting

I don't know the etiquette on this, but if your parents are paying I think they should be invited.

If your parents are paying they should be there. His parents can be involved in the rehearsal dinner menu if they are paying for it..

If they're paying, they go.

If your choices make a difference price wise than it is important that both of your parents are there.

It's like going to buy a car without your spouse, you wont be able to make any decisions until they go home and talk to the spouse, and how can the other person decide if they were not there....

Maybe you can ask if you can pay a small fee to add extra guests to the tasting? If it isn't too much perhaps you and your FH can treat his parents?

Our caterer had the same rule so we paid an extra fee to include FH's parents. Shouldn't be a big deal.

I would invite the parents who are paying.

The parents who are NOT paying may be embarrassed by the budget/money talk and may even feel pressured to chip in for an expensive item that's not in the budget. Parents of bride are willing to pay for chicken, B&G love the filet, groom's parents feel pressured to pay the difference.

Like Christina said, ask if you can pay an extra fee for the future in-laws.

Who knows, the more you make them a part of things, the more they may feel like contributing down the line. It's an opportunity for them to see how much things cost, too.

Besides, you're all going to be family. It's a nice gesture.

And don't get me wrong, I was all like, nuh-uh, just your parents cuz they're paying

Do both of your parents want to attend it? Most of the time it is the bride and groom and the Moms that attend. I would probably discuss it with your FH, they are paying so they need to be there, but if Dad doesn't want to go, we can bring your Mom.

Like others said, I would ask if you can pay to bring extra people. I doubt this is the first time the caterer has run into this problem. Our tasting included four people, but the venue said you could bring extras and share the entrees. It worked out well. If you are sure you can only bring two people, I would give your parents the first choice of attending since they're paying.

I included both sets of parents and my grandfather. All are paying for wedding! It was a blast!

If your parents are paying they should both go! If you can bring extra people then his parents should come but i dont think its a big deal. just like if they were paying they would want to go.

I agree with the above, if your parents are paying they should be given priority in attending.

If you're like most people, you're going to go to more than one tasting. Take your parents to the first one, his to the next, and so on. If you're lucky you may even find a caterer that allows up to 6 people and then everybody can go!

We are doing us two and both moms. I think that is totally fine.

Thank you for all the insight and suggestions everyone! This will all be helpful when opening up the conversation with my FH and then our families.

I think it is very awkward to have the groom's parents there if they are not financially contributing to the wedding. It could be awkward. What i mean by that is typically these meeting also contain financial decisions. Choosing costs that meet the parameters of budgets and so forth. Having given 3 daughters away and now involved with he fourth, I would prefer that this not be a meeting where they are included.